If you’re the type of man or woman who, like many others, likes the idea of sharing your bed with more than one other person, then you may have stumbled across the slight problem that many of us call ‘our other half’. You may well be lucky enough to have met your ideal partner in the sense that they too crave a little extra excitement, but if you’re anything like the rest of us poor souls, you may have started to believe that your favorite fantasy is actually an impossible dream.

The secret to attaining your impossible dream, is the approach you have regarding your other half. I will continue to use the term ‘other half’ because in todays day and age it’s becoming increasingly popular for women to seek out the three-in-a-bed scenario too, and it’s this lovely development that ensures that you can in actual fact have a threesome on most given nights if you behave appropriately!

Your wife, husband, girlfriend or boyfriend is likely to have been slightly taken aback at the idea of sharing you with another man or woman. Lets face it, if it were the other way around you are highly likely to be put off too! After all, you LOVE your partner and they love you! And love is the biggest obstacle, because love can fuel jealousy, and jealousy can ruin your relationship.

The last thing you want is to sacrifice your relationship, and in turn sacrifice your loved one, for a night of passion with an extra person between the sheets, and you would do well to remember that! If your partner begins to realize that they are more important to you than the fantasy, then they may well begin warming to the idea of making it a reality for you - after all, they want to make you happy!

You can use their desire to make you happy to your advantage, but be careful, because if you play your cards wrong, you could find yourself getting burned.

Make very sure that you don’t suggest someone to share your bed simply because they fulfill something your partner doesn’t. The experience should be about the threesome as an EXPERIENCE, not as a way of enjoying something your partner lacks. This is especially true if your partner is a woman. After all, can you imagine the backlash when you suggest a beautiful, young, slim, sexy blonde woman to your slightly overweight wife who spends her day insecure and worrying if she looks good enough for you?! Do you see my point? You do not want to make your partner feel insecure about their appearance or their abilities for that matter. What you want is to convince them that it’s all only about the experience, and your fantasy is about the experience, not the third person.

The only place where this theory falls down slightly is if you are desiring something that your partner cannot do for you. So for example, lets say you’re a white woman happily married to a white man, and you develop a desire to have sex with a black man. This fantasy is one that many men allow to happen, as it is an experience that they cannot fulfill for you no matter how much they try. A white man cannot become black. So there is no insecurity involved. It is a simple indulgence.

However, if you were to suggest this fantasy to your husband because you have heard black men are well-endowed in the trouser department, and you tell your husband that he is not fulfilling your needs, you may have a problem.

There are men and women all over the world having a very tough time from their partners today simply because they didn’t differentiate between the reasons for the fantasy. If you word it well, and if you make sure your partner feels secure enough to indulge you, then you are on to a winner.

Suggest the experience for experience’s sake. Don’t suggest the experience because of your partner’s inadequacy!

Brutal honesty can hurt anyone, and if your partner were to tell you that they don’t think you’re satisfactory in bed then you too would be reeling from the insult. Lets face it, no one wants to hear they don’t measure up!

Now lets be clear, its important that you make sure your partner feels comfortable with the idea that it’s just the experience you’re after, but we all know that there’s usually a little more to it. After all, you’re highly unlikely to get off on the idea of a 20 stone woman on top of you, or a 4 inch penis trying its hardest to make you feel it! Everyone wants something a bit better or a bit bigger, and that’s why sites like www.abitbigger.com are doing so well - they fulfill your every desire! As soon as you’ve stroked your partners ego, you can begin sifting through the many wonderful 3rd party options you can have!

There are men and women of all shapes and sizes, colors and creeds, desiring all number of rude, crude, sexy and just plain kinky experiences, and almost all of them are up for a threesome!

As I said earlier, finding the third party is the easiest bit. They’re all out there just waiting for a chance to share your bed! You just have to know how to talk to them (or in some cases just a look will do!).

When you chat to the third person that you and your partner have agreed on, it’s important to make sure you all know exactly what you all want. Be honest and upfront about everything from the beginning. Make sure everyone is happy with having a threesome, and make sure everyone is happy with each other. After all, you really don’t want to finally get the opportunity and then find that the third person finds your partner revolting! That would just be plain disappointing!

Flirt, be outrageous if you want, but don’t be creepy. You don’t want to seem like you’re obsessed, and you definitely don’t want them to feel like you’re stalking them! If they don’t reply to you within a week you know to move on and find someone else, and if you happen to find the third person at a club or bar, make sure you don’t come across sleazy. Try to be normal but a little sexy too, and when they begin to show interest go along with it until you feel the time’s right to ask them how they’d feel about a threesome. It really is quite simple!

Just remember, when you finally get this dream to materialize, that the most important thing in the world is your partner, and no one and nothing else can stand in their way. They are the person you love, and they are the person who will be most hurt if you say or do the wrong thing. Which brings me to my last point...

Set rules for the actual event. Ask your partner if there’s anything specific they do NOT want you to do. A lot of people feel kissing is out of bounds, so in that instance you would agree that only you and your partner can kiss during the threesome. These rules help your partner to feel privileged, or more important than the person they’re sharing you with, and this will in turn ensure that they feel secure throughout the night. Whatever you do, do NOT breach those rules. The night will likely be ruined if you do. If, on the other hand, you keep your partner happy by ensuring they’re comfortable and satisfied by your behavior in and out the bedroom, then you in turn will be a very happy bunny indeed, and in no time at all you’ll be dreaming about what a wonderful night you actually had!

So go forth and fulfill your fantasy with confidence my friend, just remember... be careful and enjoy!