Ah, women and sex, for a man, nothing can be more interesting than a discussion that includes these two fascinating words. However, if a guy wants to get more out of these two words other than just mere discussion, then he needs to be in depth on not just what women want in bed, but their secret sexual desires as well. But first, he needs to understand the basics of women’s sexuality.

The first thing that a man needs to know is the sexual energy flow of women. Unlike most men, where the genitals are the base and pole of their sexual energy, for women, however, their sexual positive pole is in their heart and breast.

This means that a woman usually needs to feel desired and love before she opens herself up for sex. Once the woman’s heart is opened, the sexual energy then flows down to her sex organ and begins to desire intercourse. Keep in mind that the sexual energy of a female is more like water on the boil. It can take a little time to let the temperature rise. Whereas for a man, it is quick to ignite like a fire, and is ready for intercourse in a matter of minutes.Inability to understand both energies can lead to miscommunications and problems.

The second thing that a man needs to know about the basic sexuality of a woman is the motive behind love-making.

When it comes to making love, men usually continue the habit they learned from masturbating, where the goal is just to ejaculate. For women, however, making love is all about connection. If a man’s goal is just to reach his own orgasm, rest assured he is going to have trouble in the sex department. If a man knows what’s best for his sex life, then he should take time connecting through foreplay and other sexual activities with his woman.

Now, I’m going to let you in on some of the women’s secret sexual desires.

• Go all over her body. This is one of the secret desires that most women want their lover to do. Women love it when their man kisses them all over their body. "I want him to kiss and lick down from my toes all the way to my legs, buttocks and back. I want him to excite sensations that come from somewhere other than my vagina, and I’m sure majority of women also yearn for this," said one woman and I happened to agree with her.

• Longer, louder oral sex. And I mean both ways. It’s no secret that women want longer oral sex, but they love giving it, too especially if the man is vocal enough to tell her that she’s doing a great, uh, job.

• Variety. Women get bored with the same old routine in bed. I’m sure she’s going to love it when her man will treat her rough and raunchy after a night of delicate sex.

• Let her lead. Allow the woman to get in touch with her dominant side by allowing yourself to be her sex slave tonight. Believe me, a man will be fulfilling every woman's most desired sexual fantasy with this one.

• Blindfolds. Bring the woman’s excitement level to great heights tonight by focusing on sensation alone. Rest assured that having a blindfold on will always be one of every woman’s secret desires- for a woman, the feeling of total surrender is always sexy and rousing.

Nobody was born timid, so they say. That’s why when it comes to sexual desires, encourage your woman to open- up, make her lose her inhibition and let her guard down. She will thank you for it.