Erotic massage forges a powerful connection between the therapist and her partner. The emphasis is on creating a dance of pleasure for the partner. The therapist uses sexual touching to bathe her partner in total feeling and excitement.

The massage starts with the therapist making the environment warm, welcoming and safe. She will use candles, scents, fabrics and music to surround her partner with pleasure. Warmed, scented oil is applied to the body in long, slow, deep strokes. Every muscle and bone of the body is touched and pleasured. The therapist will use every tool of her training to communicate with her partner and to understand her partner's communication. Loving openness and acceptance replace fear and shame as desires and pleasures are acknowledged and encouraged.

Along with her strong, soft hands, the therapist will use her legs, hips, breasts, nipples and buttocks to stroke and stimulate her partner's skin. The movements will be slow and gentle or hard and strong. She will listen to her partner's breathing and encourage deep, regular breaths. Steady breathing enhances relaxation and sexual arousal.It causes the partner to sink more deeply into the cloud of sexual energy and excitement. The sexual energy dance will grow and grow.

The partner's pleasure is the only focus of the erotic massage. There is no performance goal or requirement expected from her partner. An erection, orgasm or ejaculation is not a goal that is rushed toward. If they happen or if they don't happen, the emphasis is on the complete involvement and integration of the senses of the whole body.

The centers of sexual energy will receive a lot of attention during an erotic massage. The buttocks will be stroked, kneaded and explored. A woman's vagina and clitoris will be massaged, stroked and fondled. If she so desires, a woman partner will be encouraged to experience multiple orgasms with continuous stimulation of her clitoris and orgasmic G-spot. For a woman the experience of multiple orgasm creates a concentration of pleasure and power in every part of her body. Women will not have to worry about pleasing anyone but themselves, they will not have to be one way or the other. They can luxuriate in the opportunity to focus solely on their own desires.

A man's penis from the glans to the root will be gently stroked and held while his testicles and perineum are massaged, tickled and stroked. His anus will be gently massaged and probed and the prostate gland massaged. The therapist is skilled at judging levels of arousal and a man will be encouraged to ride the waves of his sexual feelings without ejaculating. If a man finally wishes to ejaculate, the therapist will be happy help him to that enjoyment.

After the massage the therapist will gently wrap her partner in a soft cloth and let him or her float on waves of relaxation and buoyant sexual energy.

Experiencing and learning the depth and power of one's own sexual response during an erotic massage helps partners heal from traumatic sexual experiences and reduce or eliminate problems of low libido, premature ejaculation or other sexual dysfunctions. An erotic massage gives joy and healing in its dance of pleasure.