Increase Sexual Desire and Self Confidence

When I founded The Sense of Smell Lab, a global leader in developing innovative products for health and well being, one area of my research that is getting considerable attention is sexual health, especially low female libido.

The characters in Sex and the City all portrayed a different attitude of sexuality. Samantha expressed the Aphrodite current. She embodied sex confidence. Yes, it was over-the-top, but that's show business.

Sexuality grows the more you express it. Like diet and exercise, it does take determination and willpower to overcome the habit of mediocrity so you gain sufficient momentum to establish a new track. Unlike a diet and exercise, most of the work is in your thoughts and feelings which in turn find their expression through your sexuality.

What you give your attention to grows. While in some way it more immediately satisfying to give attention to the activity of sex, you will not gain an attitude of sexual confidence just by learning the techniques of sexual function. As you know, the seed of confidence resides in the core of your being. It is by nurturing the seed and giving it expression that is becomes a part of your overall expression.

A sexually confident woman is a powerful woman. Not just because he expresses her sexuality with confidence, but more importantly, she is giving expression to the very foundations of what makes her a woman. A woman confident in her sexuality is also a very sexy.

I often think about the difference between Marilyn Monroe who was the sex kitten of the 50s and 60s - made in the image of what men wanted in a woman - and Madonna, who crafted her own sexual image. Marilyn Monroe was commoditized for being 'sexual'. Madonna however, is a sexually confident woman. There is an important difference.

I decided long ago that I wanted to take my sexuality and give it expression well into old age. There are many more women who carry the same attitude.

A sexually confident woman is more sexually active and has a lot more fun. She doesn't confuse quantity with quality. A sexually confident woman is relaxed and experiences things more fully because she isn't self-conscious. She doesn't obsess about rejection or failure. Sexual confidence means knowing exactly what you like and dislike, and having the guts to express it. Knowing what you want and what makes you feel good will give you more confidence.

Why not try this today?

Good, healthy sex is a game. Be willing to get good at it, and discover what it will to take for you to love and accept yourself. Know what makes you sexually happy. Acknowledge your power as a woman. Give yourself permission to be sexual and to fully enjoy it.