Many men have already learned about the benefits of anal stimulation and the art of prostate massage. While other men, are afraid to even talk about it. This can be an uncomfortable topic for most men since it has been programmed into us since childhood, that anal stimulation in men has been primarily associated with homosexuals. The old saying "exit only" comes to mind, when thinking of anything along those lines, by most men. Anal stimulation is something many men want to do on their partner, but would never consider as an option for themselves. What better way to get her to try it than trying it yourself.

So why would any man want to experiment with anal stimulation and prostate massage, you might ask, after being lead to believe it just isn’t normal for a man to have anything penetrate their anus. Being a little homophobic may play a large role for most men trying to decide if they would even consider such a thing. Anal play is not just for homosexuals. Anyone who wants to experience an extreme orgasm like no other should consider prostate massage. Have you ever thought to yourself, wouldn’t it be great if that feeling right as you ejaculate, could last just a little longer, or even last as long as you wanted it too. This is very possible while massaging the prostate gland.

Prostate massage can be done by means of external massage or through penetration to stimulate it internally. The latter being the most intense and it produces the best effects. This can be done either through self massage or with a partner doing the massage for you. The prostate is located just below the bladder, in the muscles of the pelvic floor. These are the same muscles that contract during orgasm and ejaculation. Massaging the prostate releases tremendous amounts of emotional and physical stress and can be extremely pleasurable.

Aside from the pleasure that can be experienced, there are health benefits to prostate massage. Regular ejaculations help to keep the prostate healthy. Massage will stimulate blood flow to the entire region and flush prostatic fluid, keeping new fresh fluid ready to be used. This is beneficial to prostate health by means of increasing blood flow to the prostate and the pelvic region, including the penis. Fresh blood flow brings the nutrients and oxygen to cells, needed to maintain a healthy prostate. The prostate is more likely to become infected or cancerous when blood flow is constricted from muscular tension and the lack of stimulation. Have you ever heard the saying "use it or lose it"?

Prostate cancer is something we have all heard of, and have associated with older men. Rarely will you hear of a young man being diagnosed with prostate cancer. It is just a fact that, as we get older, our body’s just don’t repair themselves as easily as when we where young. Younger men are more sexually active, and blood flow to the pelvic region is abundant, producing very hard erections and their high level of sexual activity keeps the prostate cleaned out. Not keeping fresh fluid and a healthy blood flow can lead to an enlarged prostate, which in turn leads to urinary problems and can affect the ability to achieve an erection if gone untreated. Stimulation of the prostate can be beneficial to increasing blood flow back to the region and can lead to improvements and even complete recovery of impotence in some cases.

So now that we know losing it is not an option anyone wants. Are you ready to use it?

If so, there are a few things you should know. Any kind of massage should always be done with care. Any type of prostate massage should be done very gently, using caution not to apply to much pressure. This area is very sensitive and only needs light pressure to stimulate it. Cleanliness is always important, as well as being sure to empty your bladder, before starting.

No matter which method is used, it is not possible to touch the prostate directly. Through the anus is the most effective way, it will just take time to adjust to being penetrated in this way. Prostate massage with your partner is a very intimate activity, and a man placing himself into such a vulnerable position with his partner, in an unaccustomed submissive role, can act as physiological stimulation for your partner. This kind of activity can be just as much of an exciting experience for them, as it is for you.

Now that you’re clean and ready, start with your partner getting ready. The use of form fitting latex surgical gloves is a desirable addition. This will help to protect the delicate anal membranes from sharp fingernails and rough skin. As well, the lubricated rubber surface of the glove will glide much easier than a bare lubricated finger. Now, find a position that will be comfortable for both, preferably facing each other for beginners.

Lying on your back, slightly propped with pillows, with your knees pulled towards your chest somewhat, with you partner between your legs facing you, is a good place to start. It will help to relax before starting, and it may help if your partner starts by massaging your abdomen and inner thighs, slowly working towards your genitals. During this part of the massage, you may want to close your eyes and try to relax as much as possible. But as your partner proceeds with the massage, maintaining eye contact is important so they can see what feels good and what does not. This can also be very sensual and arousing to both parties.

It will be up to your partner to decide when the time is right to start the actual massage.

This depends on when you appear sufficiently relaxed and aroused. To start the stimulation process, using a lubricated finger, lubricate the anus opening and massage the perineum (area between the scrotum and anus). This will help relax the pelvic muscles and make penetration much easier. Never just try to poke a finger into the anus before it is relaxed and ready. Be sure to use plenty of lube during this process, rubbing in circular motions, stroking the anal opening. The objective here is to pleasure and relax the nervous rosebud.

Continue rubbing and stroking the anus until it is completely relaxed. Gently apply pressure to the anus as you rub and massage. When the time is right, a well lubed finger will easily slip right in, almost as if it is being pulled into the anus. Your partner is now ready to find your prostate and begin the massage. The prostate is located approximately two inches inside the rectum, and can be found at the base of the penis from inside the rectum. Using an upwards crooked finger feel for an oblong or round protrusion, and apply gentle pressure and begin a rubbing motion. Applying more or less pressure to the gland will provide a variety of sensations. A slight in and out motion will also give different sensations. Your partner will be able to control these sensations; even to the point of inhibiting you from ejaculating.

Eye contact is most desirable at this phase of the experience, as well as verbal communication. Various scenarios are possible and can involve masturbation, either by your partner on you, or doing it yourself while your partner massages your prostate. Which ever way you agree on, will be a very pleasurable experience. Climax and ejaculation are even possible without touching the penis at all, if so desired. The first time you ejaculate with out any penis stimulation can be a real exciting site for you and your partner. Watching your erect penis throb as you ejaculate, without them ever touching it, will be a completely new experience for them, and likely excite them very much. An erection is not needed with this type of stimulation, although the ejaculation may not be as powerful without it. The sensation will be just as powerful, and may last much longer and even continue with no ejaculation.

Being kept on the brink of ejaculation by varying pressure on the prostate is the best technique. Having the feeling of ejaculating without the actual ejaculation, is where the real pleasure comes in to play. This type of stimulation can be continued for extended periods and can produce the feeling of many intense orgasms. It can produce a very powerful orgasm, especially when done in conjunction with genital stimulation. Experiment and find what combination works best. Once you have mastered manual prostate massage, either by yourself, or with the help of your partner, you can move to the next level and add sex toys and massagers for a whole new experience.