Why Do I Attract The Same Kind of Toxic Relationships Over and Over?

This is the fifth article in the series in which I answer the most frequently asked questions about finding a loving committed relationship. Finding love is meant to be simple and easy, but somehow for many of us it can become anything but.

My intention in answering these commonly asked questions is to dispel some misconceptions and maybe save some of you unnecessary time spent in frustration and loneliness. Hopefully within this series you will find an answer that can help you connect with your soulmate and begin living the life of your dreams now. So let's look at it.

Question Five is this: I have had more than one unhappy relationship in the past. It seems that no matter how determined I am not to make the same mistake again, I inevitably choose people who treat me the same way. What can I do to ensure that this doesn't happen to me in the future?

If you continue to attract the same kind of partner, it is undoubtedly because, in your attempt to avoid making the same mistake, you have been focusing your attention on the attributes of your previous partner that you don't like and don't want to see in your future mate. Unfortunately, because we tend to attract what we think about and give our attention to, although you are thinking about what you don't want, you will still get the object of your attention.

What you want to do instead is decide what qualities you want your next partner to have and then give you attention only to that, never thinking about what you don't like and don't want. This will help you to attract someone who will make you happy and treat you the way you want to be treated.

Also because you attract from the world what you put out into it, it is a good idea to be sure that you possess the beautiful qualities that you are looking for in a mate. If there is something about you that needs to change, put your attention on that first.

If you would like to learn more, visit my website where you can download the videos in this series. You can also download, absolutely free, ten additional videos in which I reveal the reasons why finding love can be so difficult.