So, it is very important that you listen to them and look before you take any actions. It is essential for effective discipline to work that you are aware of what it is your child is doing or thinking about and what it is that might be the root cause of his behavior.

Once you do this by not reacting right away, you will understand and be aware of what it is that is troubling your child, which in turn is causing his bad behavior.

So, here are the three reasons that your child is misbehaving.

There is a real and legitimate need that your child is being deprived of. This can be physical things such as food or water, but can also be emotional needs as well. If your child is lacking affection or respect, the chances of misbehaving increases dramatically. Also, he or she may be lacking enough exercise or stimulation as well.

Your child may not understand a given situation or does not have enough information to understand a situation. Is it possible that your child is too young to remember all of your rules, and if he can remember them, does he understand what they mean. This is where more communication and trying to teach them what the rules mean will help them to understand more clearly.

If your child has accumulated a lot of stress over a long period of time, he or she will be able to think clearly to understand any given situation. It is possible that your child is experiencing some extremely strong emotions such as fear and insecurity. This again is where good communication comes into play.

So, you need to ask yourself these questions before you react to his or her bad behavior. Apparently there is something wrong, and by talking about it with your child, you can get to the root cause of the problem. This is effective discipline at its center.

If you are asking yourself why your child is acting out, you need to stop and think about each one of these situations. Is there an unmet need or does he or she have an accumulated amount of stress. Maybe things between you and your spouse are strained, or he is having some trouble in school or at preschool. Is it possible that your child is just not understanding the rules or is too young to even remember them, much less understand them.

In order for you to become a better parent and implement effective discipline, you need to communicate with your child about these three factors that can affect their behavior. You need to take a step back and think about what it is that might be causing his or her bad behavior.

It is also important to know that by giving your children your full attention while they are playing, they are able to stay extremely focused. Now is when you can talk about what it is that is troubling your child. It is during these times that you should be able to get the information from them about their troubles, no matter what their age.

This is the power of standing back and listening. It is now that your child will feel secure and have a sense of safety that they can divulge their fears or misunderstandings. Your child will be spontaneous and share with you all of their thoughts and experiences.