Men being men, most of us have a fairly high opinion of ourselves, and when it comes to sex, we can become very sensitive indeed about all aspects of our size, performance, stamina and style.

Because men are biologically pre-programmed to be proud in matters of sex, it can be extremely difficult for many of us to first of all recognise that we may have a problem, and harder still to make the leap into dealing with that problem.

Because of the proliferation in recent years of advice and treatments for sexual problems such as premature ejaculation, many men now can find access to information and advice that was simply unavailable just a few years ago. For many years, problems such as premature ejaculation were simply ignored, and brushed under the carpet, leaving many men to wonder how to tackle their problem.

Despite all this available information, the temptation remains extremely strong in most men to pretend that they don’t have a problem, or that it will simply get better on its own. The perception remains that admitting a problem and seeking help, especially in matters of sex, is somehow admitting to a weakness or failure. This simply should not be the case, for a number of reasons.

Many men with premature ejaculation pretend that the problem does not exist. They begin by blaming stress, or work, or some other factor. The problem is that this denial will never help them to deal with their problem, and as it continues they may seek to hide it from their partners, and worry about it on their own. This denial slowly leads into a personal acceptance that a problem exists, but an unwillingness to tackle it. So they worry, and fret, and the feelings of inadequacy set in, leading to anxiety, stress, low self esteem and even depression. For many men, this personal anguish seems more bearable than the perceived embarrassment of consulting a doctor, sex therapist, or even talking to their partners, but is it really?

No, it is not. However exquisite the temporary feelings of embarrassment may be, hiding the problem away and allowing it to consume your life is far, far worse. Most women are extremely understanding of male sexual problems, and a loving partner will also want to do her very best to help you to overcome premature ejaculation. Similarly, doctors and sex therapists are trained, impartial professionals who are highly skilled at helping you to overcome the psychological problems associated with PE.

There is a wealth of advice and help available online too, as well as treatments such as our own Delay that can help you. The most important things to remember are that premature ejaculation is not something you should be ashamed of or embarrassed about, it is a perfectly common and treatable problem, and that hiding a problem or refusing to confront it will never make it go away, but will almost always make it worse.

Don’t let a little embarrassment or pride turn your problem into a crisis, and don’t allow premature ejaculation to take over your life.