If you are looking for ways to get back with your ex girlfriend, you must remember that the time right after a break up is a sensitive time for both of you. You may still be going through the pain of the separation, while she may also be feeling frustrated with the whole situation. You should remember that women do not easily get over the pain, and it is important to find your way back into her life without hurting her even more.

Here are some points you need to consider if you are trying to figure how to get back with your ex girlfriend:

1. First, you need to find out what really caused the break up. Girls are a lot more emotional than men, and for sure, they don't give up a relationship just like that. There is often a good reason why the separation happened. Maybe you were insensitive to her feelings and did not really realize right away that she was unhappy with the relationship. If you want to get back with your ex girlfriend, the first thing to do is to find out what really went wrong, and analyze if there is a way to remedy the situation.

2. If you know that you are responsible for the breakup with your girlfriend, then the only way you can get back with your ex is to admit your faults and ask for forgiveness. Most women have soft hearts, and are easy to forgive their loved ones. However, if it is a mistake that you keep repeating, you may have a hard time winning back your ex with just a mere apology.

3. Try to show your ex that you are doing your best to move on, yet your feelings for her have not really disappeared. You can drop signs that you are still there when she needs you. You can send her quick emails or text messages, just casually asking how her day has been. She'll get the message that even though you are trying to move on, you have not really completely given up on the relationship.

4. Get out of your comfort zone and start socializing again. Going through a break up can be heartbreaking, and you may just want to be away from people just to get over the pain. However, one of the things you can do to get over the break up is to actually socialize with your friends and start doing the things you enjoy doing most. You may even start dating again, which may actually make your ex feel jealous. That may make her want to get back with you or may also backfire, and make her feel that you had completely moved on.

5. Finally, the most important thing to do is to be friends with your ex. Letting her know that you're just there when she needs you can rebuild the trust that was lost, and can lead to a closer relationship with your ex again.

After things have calmed down, you can ask her the real reason that caused the break up. Getting back your ex requires that you and your ex be honest with each other. Ask her if there is still any hope to rekindle the love between you and if she says yes, then work on it. If she says no, accept defeat and move on from there. Do not show her that you are too miserable or too desperate that you will do anything just to get back your ex girlfriend. That will surely turn her off even more and you may lose your chances of winning back your lost love.

These are simple steps that you can use to win your ex back. They were the first steps I did when my girlfriend broke up with me, and they worked for me. They are not really my own ideas, but something I picked up from T 'Dub' Jackson's book, "The Magic of Making Up". It was all worth the effort, because I and my girl are back in each other's arms again, enjoying the rekindled love we share together.