Once you have equipped yourself with the right mentality and some good information to help you keep a positive mindset, you should make a list of small goals. These goals are designed to teach you how to build confidence through repeated triumphs of ever increasing magnitude. The individual goal is basically anything that pushes you just a little bit outside of your current comfort zone. An example of this might be greeting a stranger verbally rather than just passing them by. Believe it or not, this is an excellent way to get started and is a good example of a small goal for increasing social confidence.

As you begin to address and accomplish the small goals on your list, your victories begin to build your self confidence and widen the boundaries of your comfort zone. Once you have begun this process, you can start to see that learning how to build confidence gets easier and easier as you go. Stick with it.

Biting Off More than You Can Chew

Once you get used to doing this on a regular basis, you’ll want to start focusing primarily on progress. Start to work on goals that are increasingly more difficult. Don’t be afraid to challenge yourself when you feel ready. Taking it easy was the focus when you were getting started but as your successes grow and your confidence grows, you may feel comfortable and emboldened enough to tackle greater challenges. Go for it! This process will continue until you stop or achieve ultimate self confidence so settle in and get comfortable.

Once you have become familiar and comfortable with this particular brand of learning how to build confidence by capitalizing on small successes, I suggest that you incorporate some your life’s goals into the same process.

Combining Self Confidence Building Goals with Life Goals

At this point in the game, you will have noticed that your confidence has grown as you accomplished the goals on your list. Depending on how much effort you’ve put into it, you may have experienced significant progress.

Now, you may want to incorporate another layer into your goal setting program. Learning how to build confidence for the sake of learning to build confidence is great and all but your major goal here should be a little more tangible. After all, confidence is merely a tool in your arsenal of equipment to accomplish your life’s goals. Why not use this process and apply it to some of those life goals as we continue accomplishing our other "confidence building" goals.

Applying the Process

To do this, you need to take a good look at your life goals, the same way that you approached your confidence building goals. I like to start at the top. What are some of your life’s goals? What steps will it take to get there? Each one of those steps in itself is a stepping stone along your proverbial path.

Begin adding some of these small steps toward your life goals into your plan. Analyze these goals, approach and prepare for them in the same ways that you approach your confidence building steps. Apply all the positive mindset rules that you have learned. You will find that these new techniques will also help you to begin accomplishing these goals as well. These successes will really boost your confidence as you see yourself moving closer to where you want to be in life. Now, each of these small accomplishments will actually be bringing you closer to your ultimate goals in life while you learn how to build your confidence simultaneously.

It’s Time to Get to Work

This simple process can easily keep you busy for years if you continue to apply it consistently. But, try to think of this as a framework. This is a very basic principle. Remember that you will continue learning along the way as well and your approach will change as you include the new things that you learn. You are on your way to mastering some of the processes that teach us how to build confidence steadily and permanently.

Make sure to consider all of your options as well. This is a common "self guided" approach to slowly build up your confidence over time. There are also some full courses available that can provide a more comprehensive and structured program approach. They often have exercises, techniques and professional guidance to help get you results quickly. Whatever route you choose, I wish you good luck…