You want to please her and make her happy and give her everything she desires right? You probably want to make her feel good about you and your relationship and ultimately her choice with you as a partner. You may beg her to tell you what you can do differently to please her but end up with no good answers that can help your relationship at the end of the day.

If you are looking for ways to please her, and you are putting all of your focus on her, then you may need to start putting some of the focus on yourself to see some serious results in her happiness and the happiness of the relationship.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't pay attention to her, communicate with her, or make her feel good about herself. You should still be putting effort into making her happy. Focusing on yourself means that you focus on your personal growth as an individual so that you can become the man that she deserves.

Your personal growth has an effect on you and everyone around you, and that's why personal growth is so important.

If you stay the same as you are now than life will always be the same as it is now. Your relationship will be the same, your attitude will be the same, and your relationship problems will be the same. People will look at you the same and react to you the same. In short, the keyword is 'same'. Your life and relationships will never change unless you do.

Personal growth is about finding out who you are as a person. This includes your beliefs, your values, your goals, your needs, your wants, your desires, and your strengths and weaknesses.

Once you figure out who you are then you can work on who you want to be. If you find that you are short tempered with your woman and want to be more kind and understanding then you have to learn how to do that, or if you suck at communicating with her and want to be a master communicator than you have to learn how to do that. You have to grow as an individual person to become who you want to be in order to affect your relationship in a positive way.

How do you do this? It's really simple. Take the questions surrounding the issues that you have about yourself and search for the answers.

This affects your relationship in a positive way because the more you learn, the more you grow, and the better you can be honest and upfront with your partner. Instead of trying to find the answers in her you can find the answers in yourself (this is really the only way to find the answers) and you can end the cycle of issues that have been arising.

There is a special gift that comes with personal growth and that gift is called awareness. Awareness allows you to see who you are and how you affect other people and yourself because of who you are.

Once you gain awareness about yourself you can never go back to blindly walking around in the day and not understanding your impact on everyone that you come across - including your partner in a relationship.

Apply this awareness to your relationship and you will see how you relationship can only improve with time.

For example, once you become aware of how your words make your partner feel then you can form your words to have a positive effect on your relationship. Or when you become aware of how your actions affect your partner then you can make sure you actions only affect your partner in a positive way.

If you have been searching for the answers to your issues inside of your woman then you have been searching in the wrong place. Start finding the answers inside yourself and you will find that you will not only please her more, but you will also please yourself.