6 Steps to Go from Bad to Great in Your Dating Life

Some singles shy away from dating online based on real stories and feelings of mistrust with who they may meet and end up interacting with.

For instance, a woman acquaintance recently joined a dating site because she was feeling discouraged at not meeting suitable men in her quest to find a partner. Good idea! She quickly met someone online she liked who lived abroad but communicated that they were planning to return to the states. Not having much experience with online dating, this woman was shocked and discouraged when she received an email message saying "sweet heart, will you help me? I need $35,000 to pay some workers here in Malaysia." She stopped all communication and reported this to the site and blocked the email address. But she was, of course, disappointed at having invested herself to this outcome.

The truth is that this is an incredibly disappointing experience to have on a dating site. And just like anyone you would meet out in your area at a restaurant, bar, club, grocery store you won't know who they are until you have done your due diligence.

The good news is that this woman took the necessary positive actions. She quickly separated her growing sentiments and stopped interacting immediately and notified the site authorities. Legitimate Dating sites want you to have a safe and successful experience, so in these cases they crack down immediately on people that are abusing the site. There are actual dating site safety tips and standards listed on dating sites to guide you that you will not find in bars, clubs and other local meeting places.

Now where does that leave you in the process of dating online or in general? A bit fearful and hesitant about the process, maybe? Those feelings would be natural. But don't turn your power over to these feelings altogether and keep you from meeting the many, many great singles that are looking for love online.

I think that this dating experience story is abundant with lessons that you can walk away with for you to help you in your dating process. Answering the following questions will help you claim your power and move forward to date with insight and discernment.

6 Steps for a Great Dating Experience:

1- Research dating sites that are in alignment with the type of relationship you are seeking. If you want a long term relationship visit those types of sites only. Ask yourself what kind of relationship am I interested in? Only list yourself on those dating sites

2-Discover the place you are coming from emotionally in initiating your dating process.

Are you Needy, Confident, Happy, Sad, Empty, Fulfilled about your love life? This answer will hold subtle keys of what in you was attracting this experience. The heavier your emotions the easier it is to be sucked into something "heavy" and negative. What state could you be in this time to judge a person more clearly?

3-Assess your instincts. What are your initial instincts about a person by looking at their profile? These initial instincts are usually telling. If you have second guessed them in the past, what can you do differently this time?

4-Observe all communications exchanged. Are they respectful? Are they equally reciprocal? Is there anything that seems strange about these communications? Pay attention to strong come-ons, big compliments right away, questions asked of you?

Based on these findings what is the right next step, move forward or end the dialogue?

5-Have Good Timing. Do you allow yourself to begin feeling for a person, right away? Two days in? a week? Two weeks? Has your timing been a byproduct of your true discernment or lead you into the wrong relationship?

What would you do differently this time?

6- Form Basis of Affection. What do you base your affections on? Words, actions, etc?

What proof points would you require this time?

Answer all these questions for yourself on one page entitled "My Steps To Have a Great Dating Experience." Then pull it out and use every single step each and every time you date.

This deeper investigation to see if a person is truly a legitimate potential partner for you before investing yourself in it will empower you to move forward and succeed in dating and love whether online or off. Also add the Best Sacred Love Dating Experience Questionnaire to Your Dating Profile. This will help you define and communicate what you are seeking in a partner and those people that you connect with, you can more easily measure their matching qualities by this as well. Feel Date Empowered!