To be the ultimate lover, you have got to know how to help a girl reach orgasm easily. If you don’t, you will be at a big disadvantage. Specifically for a guy who is less experienced in sex, or has been involved in a relationship that has an increasing stale sex life, getting a woman turned on is the single most important aspect of every sexual encounter. Fortunately, there are many ways you can go about doing this.

To help satisfy your girl, try these 5 tips on how to make a woman orgasm more than once.

(1) Focus on her needs

Many guys like to let their fragile male egos get in their way when trying to please a girl. This is not just about you. It is about giving her body rocking, mind-blowing orgasm over and over again. Therefore, the first thing you need to do to make her moan and scream is to stop worrying about your penis size and pay attention to her and focus on her mind.

Get into her head and find out what she likes. Her fantasies, anything you can use to set her off. Women are stimulated more by thoughts than guys are. Therefore, try to plant some ‘erotic seeds’ in her brain to get her fantasizing and lubricating before she even gets the chance to see you tonight. Just think of the screaming orgasm she will have if you have been massaging her mind all day with thoughts of dirty deeds.

(2) Put her at ease

Just as you are very concerned about lasting longer, many women are so self-conscious about taking too long that they end up faking orgasm or just not able to orgasm at all. The fact is orgasms can’t be forced and the more pressure you put on her to come, the less likely it can happen. Stop obsessing over orgasm, hers or yours. A brain-imaging study done by Swedish researchers showed the single most important factor in bringing a woman to orgasm is relaxation.

So, do assure your girl that you only want her to enjoy sex and is dedicated to making sure she does just that. The better you convey not just tolerance for a lengthy buildup (takes 15 to 40 minutes for a woman to reach orgasm), but also appreciation of her sexual pleasure (with or without orgasm), the easier it will be for her to unwind and explode.

(3) Finger her

For most women, clitoral stimulation is how they achieve orgasm. The clitoris is located above the vaginal opening and becomes exposed when you gently pull back the skin. To stimulate her clitoris, apply some lubricant on your middle finger to create a smooth moving surface. Begin by slowly rubbing her clitoris with a light touch. When she begins reacting with moans, which is her signal for you to speed up the pace. Gradually begin increasing the pressure and the speed until she reaches orgasm. You can also lick or suck her breasts during the stimulation, as most women find this very pleasurable when they are highly aroused.

(4) Lick her

Oral sex yields the best results when the focus is placed on and around the clitoris. The more you practice, the better your technique will become. But when you begin learning how to give orgasm through oral stimulation, you need to keep the area moist. Your own saliva will work just fine.

Start by kissing and caressing her thighs and pubic region and then work your way to her clitoris. Slow tongue strokes will get her into the mood, then you steadily quicken the pace with faster tongue ‘flicks’ and increased pressure. You can also massage her g-spot while you suck and lick her clitoris once she becomes highly aroused.

(5) Stimulate the g-spot

The elusive g-spot is a difficult area for most men to find, as it is located inside a woman’s body and can’t be seen. To find the g-spot, have her lie flat on her back and insert your index finger inside her vagina. With your palm facing upwards, you go in about 2 inches inside her and feel for some rough patch.

If you are unsure, you can get her to guide you. The region that makes her very sensitive to your touch and gives her the false urge to urinate is the g-spot. Once you have located the g-spot, begin to rub it slowly and then speed up your pace. She may find it helpful to tilt her pelvis, as this makes it much easier to reach this pleasure zone. A g-spot orgasm is more intense than any other type of orgasm, so be prepared for her to make a lot of noise when it happens.

Now that you know how to make her come, keep in mind that the more a woman orgasms, the more she is going to want to come. Most important, in order for her to reach this stage, you have to have an open mind and willing to try new things to help her reach the sexual gratification she wants. Making her scream will be an enjoyable experience for both if you are willing to put in the effort.