California defines a cyberbully as anyone who sends any online communication to deliberately frighten, embarrass, harass, or otherwise target another.

The Cyberbullying Research Center defines it as “willful and repeated harm inflicted through the use of computers, cell phones, and other electronic devices,” and, “when someone repeatedly makes fun of another person online or repeatedly picks on another person through e-mail or text message or when someone posts something online about another person that they don’t like.”

With schools closed for a year and only just reopening, memories of “classic” face-to-face schoolyard bullying may have receded in the memory of kids who had dreaded showing up at school only to see their tormentors on a daily basis.

But remote schooling with extra hours online has only opened them up further to abuse on social media and other types of cyberbullying. Combined with recent increasingly uncivil political practices and the ease with which one can remain anonymous online, many bullies feel more empowered than ever to harass children and adults of all stripes. In any case, 95% of teens are online and the great majority of them use social media, where much of cyberbullying activity occurs.

A large number of kids are bullied online:

• About a third of US kids have experienced cyberbullying.

• Close to two-thirds of teens have experienced cyberbullying

• Nearly three-quarters of teens have reported someone spreading online rumors about them.

• About one-sixth of youth admit to having cyberbullied others.

• Nearly half of LGBTQ youth have experienced cyberbullying.

So what? Aren’t we supposed to have freedom of expression?

While we generally assume freedom of expression in the USA, this is only guaranteed on government platforms – not private platforms, such as Twitter and Facebook. Even so, not all expression is tolerated under the moniker of Free Speech. Hate speech and fighting words, for instance, are not guaranteed forms of expression.

To be sure, many forms of cyberbullying are hate speech. And cyberbullying has consequences:

• Victims of cyberbullying are nearly twice as likely to take their own lives.

• Those who do the bullying are also more likely to commit suicide – about 70% more likely than the general population.

• Two-thirds of kids that have been harassed online have experienced mental health issues.

• Two-thirds of kids say cyberbullying affects their ability to learn and to feel safe at school.

Aren’t there laws against this kind of thing?

There are now laws expressly targeting cyberbullying, but no Federal laws specifically prohibiting such behavior (although there are civil rights laws for certain groups). The great majority of cyberbullying and cyberstalking charges are add-ons to other crimes.

• Schools can discipline kids who bully at school, but until recently, their hands were largely tied when it happened after school hours.

• Each state has its own laws, which can be found here and here.

https://www.bark.us/blog/cyberbullying-laws/

https://www.stopbullying.gov/resources/laws

What can we do?

Experts say that it’s best to ignore offensive posts, comments, texts, calls, messages, etc. – that is – don’t respond. But of course, this is hard advice to take. Bullies are looking for a reaction, so it is useful to tell the cyberbullied child that by not responding, they are actually winning. And their online tormentor is fairly likely to just go away.

At the same time, it is a good idea to save copies of all these emails, messages, posts, comments, etc., in case action needs to be taken at some point. Save the evidence. Without it, there’s no proof.

If there is a sexual picture of a minor, it must be deleted or the recipient could be prosecuted for the crime of possession of child pornography. Under no means should they send it to someone else, or that could add a distribution charge. This bears repeating: Delete sexual images of minors and don’t send them to anyone.

You can report the bullying – to the school, to the social media sites where it occurred or originated, and to the ISP supplying your child’s or the tormentor’s email addresses. When reporting, include copies of the offending material – with the above exception of sexual images of minors.

If there are threats of violence or death, stalking, or encouragement to do self-harm or even suicide, report these to the police. Again, save copies of the offending material and include it with your report to law enforcement. Include everything but be succinct in your narrative to them to be taken more seriously.

Change your accounts. If there is persistent harassment or bullying, you can close the account that is being targeted and open a new one.

Remember that kids communicate with their peers through electronic devices. Taking away their means of communicating with their friends because they are being victimized punishes the victim and may encourage them to keep silent when they are being bullied. Verywell Family [https://www.verywellfamily.com/reasons-why-victims-of-bullying-do-not-tell-460784] says that most kids don’t report bullying for fear of losing their link with the world – which has been especially true in times of quarantine.

Help your child to avoid becoming a cyberbully

Early on, as children begin to communicate online, teach netiquette, that is, accepted rules of online behavior. They are not so different than accepted rules of in-person behavior, except for that online behavior can be anonymous. It may be hard to teach civility in what we often see as politicized uncivil behavior, but of course, the best teacher is modeling the behavior you wish to see in your children.

Basic Rules of Netiquette

Avoid hurting people’s feelings.

Respect others’ rights.

Avoid insulting someone – anyone, really.

Don’t write something you wouldn’t say in person.

If someone insults you, be calm.

They are just trying to get a reaction and, as above, if you refuse to engage the insulter, you win.

Respect others’ privacy and use respectful language, which includes not writing in ALL CAPS.

This may be for older users, but fact check before reposting. It’s easy enough to do and it quashes harmful rumors.

Helplines

Call Helplines for those affected (thank you, CyberSmile) https://www.cybersmile.org/advice-help/category/who-to-call

Stop Bullying Now Hotline: 1-800-273-8255 Helpline set up by U.S. Department of Health and Human Services

National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255

Suicide National Hopeline: 1-800-784-2433

También disponible en español: 1-888-628-9454

National Eating Disorders Association: 1-800-931-2237

The Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386: Suicide prevention within the LGBTQ community

While Cyberbullying is something of a scourge, its effects and even its creation can be mitigated by listening to your kids, modeling civil behavior, and talking early to them about netiquette and expectations. We can get involved in supporting laws and school policies designed to foil offenders, and we can be sure to make known support such as the hotlines worked by the fine people willing to support those affected by abuse.

Ever more of our lives involves action on the Internet. This trend will only continue. Let’s make is a safer place to be.

Note: Most of the above stats not already attributed are from TechJury and CyberSmile.

https://techjury.net/blog/cyberbullying-statistics/#gref

https://www.cybersmile.org/advice-help/category/how-to-guard-against-your-child-becoming-a-cyberbully

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