When it comes to making love, women are generally more into the fantasy aspect surrounding the erotic experience than they are the simple thrill of getting undressed with someone they know and love (or maybe even don't!). Enticing a woman to yield to your deepest, most secret desires requires that you gradually draw her into your world by making yourself into a unique high value lover, and then doing so on a consistent basis until you secure her complete enchantment (and submission). You do this by customizing each and every experience in bed for her based on some careful investigation on your part. Great sex for most women can be defined as erotic in a way that she doesn't consider inappropriately perverted with a man who has learned to deliver the goods in a way that she likes, time after time. Imposing task? Not necessarily. Here's a three step plan to help you navigate this special road into the erotic heart of any woman...

1. Search For Her Erotic Weaknesses

The first step is to figure out what sort of cheap tricks in your bag will send a particular chick into orbit. How?... Experiment! Maybe she likes to be dirty-talked or verbally coaxed along? Maybe she would like you to dominate her? Or maybe she wants to control YOU? Try all sorts of things with her... spanking, tickling, toys, take some nasty pictures, do it out in the bushes, try some stuff in the shower, swap positions, etc. Use your porno powers here that you've spent years (probably all by yourself) "cultivating". Some of this mayhem may turn her off, but there's usually SOMETHING that will get a woman red-lining off the meter -- and it's your job to discover what that is and then learn how to play it like a fiddle!

If she refuses to go very much beyond plain vanilla missionary-style, then you may have run across a chick with low sex drive or other pressing issues on her mind that she feels must be more important. Rather than be angry about it, count your blessings. It's liberating to uncover such crucial knowledge of incompatibility about a partner as soon as possible because it can head off a ton of future misery. Turning someone this far gone towards your more open-minded, erotically-experimental direction can be an impossible chore. I've always felt that the best sex occurs between two child-like adults. By that I mean people who don't take themselves too seriously -- at least not to the point where they feel sex has become "kid stuff" and somehow beneath their dignity. People who've taken on too much responsibility in life are likely to end up this way by middle-age. Just a warning.

Anyway, regular work between the sheets will eventually uncover where all her high water marks are located, and her limits as well. Keep notes on what you're doing and of her reactions to your experimental prodding -- silly as this may sound. Once you get a page or two of notes, go back and look for clues. Look for those things that she seems to enjoy the most and figure out a few clever ways to focus in on them.

Now you're ready to lock her heart up tight, and lock yourself into the drivers' seat.

2. Become Her "Drug" Based on that Weakness

Once you think you have some idea of what her sexual weaknesses could be (in the sense that she has a "weakness" or intense desire for these acts, fantasies, etc.) you're ready to zoom in on them, expand upon them, make them more elaborate -- until you become really good at delivering the best sexual experience that she's ever had... time after time. If she wonders what the deal is with your sudden amorous enthusiasm, try crossing her up a little by telling her that she makes you feel uninhibited like no one else ever has. This freaks them out because most women think that all guys are natural sex-fiends to some degree and don't realize that it often takes someone special to actually bring this quality out. For you, this person is her! Such an attempt to reach out and connect your soul with hers through raw physical pleasure makes a powerful impression that cannot be easily dismissed or forgotten. The rush of adrenaline that accompanies such feelings will serve to weld these unique moments deep into her unconscious mind. And they will all be connected to YOU... you will always be "that guy" who did "that thing" the night you were both together at "that place".

Now her romantic enchantment should begin to really flourish!

3. Get Her Addicted to You

Look, most people pretty much wing it when it comes to sex  they know a few basic moves and make the rest up as they go along. The fact that you have 1) studied your "prey" and determined what really turns her on, and 2) are making an effort to satisfy her in specific ways that tie into these revelations, will surely paint you as a totally different breed of cat. And that's good! That's male mystery in action. Before long you'll be seen as a champion among all the men she's known, and really, you'll hardly have done anything all that stupendous. You'll just be doing things with a little more purpose, direction and creativity than the usual average Joe.

While the task of enchanting a woman is mainly one of carefully feeding her thrills and absorbing her fears based on what you've learned from your study of her sexual proclivities, one warning however... never bust this illusion by announcing what you're up to. Don't say, "I'm going to make you addicted to me!..." For that matter, NEVER reveal that you're actually seducing a woman either. If people begin to get the idea that they're being manipulated they will create tons of resistance. Like a stage magician, a trick is only cool as long as you never reveal how it works. If you show the audience how the string runs up your sleeve they'll think oh, that trick was easy', and then suddenly the whole thing sucks.

As for technique, simple... women just LOVE men who talk it up in bed! What to say? Try stating the not-so-obvious... tell her all the enticing stuff she longs to hear, but never expects to. Tell an older woman that she's tight like a young chick... Rave about a thick girl's voluptuous body... Tell a skinny girl her long arms make her look like a statue in an art museum. Arms? How often do someone's arms get complimented on? Or maybe that you absolutely love the way her shoulder blades look like little angel wings. Thin girls think they're not very sexy because they don't have enough curves. Not to you though... you're enthralled by it! Tell a 25 year old she has a sultriness that belies her real age -- making her seem more like an experienced middle-aged seductress...

Notice the pattern here? No one wants to be themselves! They want to be younger or older or shaped differently or whatever... anything but plain old them! This is why you need to think up a new custom compliment for your girl every time you hook up with her intimately -- so it appears that you are unraveling her bit-by-bit like a delicate flower... each layer more wonderful than the last. And you are the very FIRST guy to ever see her in this way... as this fantasy creature that she never dared dream of being. But you can see through the ordinary and view the extraordinary in her. Few women can resist this sort of lavish attention spilling forth from their lover... it's intoxicating!

This is the way that you establish a position of power and control in all your relationships with women and have them "eating out of your hand"... not with the vinegar of conflict but with the honey of a unique sensuality that she's unlikely to ever find anywhere else or in the arms of any other man...

By becoming her sweetest addiction!