Just because you’ve decided to go outside your marriage for casual sexual relationships doesn’t mean you are looking for a divorce. Plenty of men, and women, are happily married and want to keep that relationships going but just have needs that their spouse can’t meet. Once you’ve decided that you want to start an affair you need to be smart about it or you could end up losing everything.

First, you will need a few supplies. Start with a laptop computer with wireless Internet access. Using the household computer is just asking for trouble. Even if you are meticulous about clearing out your Internet history it is just too easy to be discovered. Not to mention that there are lots of companies that sell spyware and keystroke logging software that would allow your suspicious spouse to keep tabs on all of your Internet activity. It isn’t safe to use your workplace computer either since many companies monitor the activity. The laptop solves all these problems. Use it at wireless hotspots to eliminate the possibility of your spouse reading over your shoulder. Next, you’ll need to invest in a prepaid cellular phone. This way your activity won’t show up on any phone bills and you won’t worry about your spouse getting a phone call from an angry mistress. Finally, you will need to get a new email account that you will use only for your extramarital activity. There are a number of free email services available which you can sign up for and they are totally untraceable to your real information.

Next, you have to figure out how you are going to meet your sex partners. Even though you may have somebody already in mind it is usually not a good idea to get involved with someone who knows your personal information. It is just too risky. If you need to be reminded of the dangers go rent Fatal Attraction. Luckily we have the Internet and numerous online dating sites that allow you to meet people. You can go to one of the traditional dating sites and pretend to be single or use some of the sites created especially for those who are married and looking. While the traditional sites have more users and matches you are also going to have to lie to the person and work hard to juggle the double life. It may be better to use the sites that cater to people looking for casual sex. That way you can be sure that you both want the same thing without worrying about having to deal with someone who is clingy and looking for a long term relationship. Of course you can’t have the rendezvous at your home but it probably isn’t safe to have it at the other persons, not at first anyway. It is too easy for you to get robbed or hurt by someone if you are meeting at their home. A hotel reserved on your credit card and then paid for in cash is your best option.

Finally, you need to make sure that you aren’t betraying your actions with your behavior. Try to keep your home life as normal as possible. If you are the type of person who stays home every night it will look suspicious when you are suddenly making excuses to go out five nights a week. If you and your mate usually have sex once a week it is going to throw a warning flag when you are no longer interested in it, or suddenly want it more then usual. If you start to feel yourself falling in love with the new person it is time to figure out what you want. It is possible to have romantic feelings towards two people at the same time, but it isn’t fair to do it secretly. Sex is one thing but love is something else. And, as always, practice safe sex. You don’t want to bring anything back home with you. Condoms are needed each and every time.

By following these tips and thinking with your brain instead of your pants and you can keep your marriage while also having some fun on the side.