When you first start looking at online dating sites, particularly adult/sex dating sites, you’ll find that almost all of them offer some type of free membership option. This may seem like a good thing, but you have to consider what your goals are in taking the time to sign up on a dating site in the first place.

Is your goal to A) Meet women and get laid, or B) Not spend any money. If you said "both", I’m afraid that those two goals are not very compatible. Now, you can definitely meet women and get laid without spending a LOT of money, but there’s a few areas where investing a few bucks will dramatically enhance your online dating success.

The first place you DON’T want to "go cheap" is on your adult/sex dating site membership. Yes, the free option is there, but in this case, free is going to cost you in other ways. Those sites that are totally free (there is no paid membership option) are pretty much a waste of time in my experience. Mostly what you’ll get from these sites is a TON of spam - both to your message box on the site and to your registered email address - promoting porn sites and "male enhancement" products. The other thing you’ll get is messages from women who are supposedly wanting to hook-up, but when you look at these profiles, you find out that this woman who wants to get together right away is listed as living hundreds or even thousands of miles away! Hmmm. Do you think maybe those messages are really just being sent by the webmaster to keep you going to the site, keeping the traffic count up to allow for better banner ad sales? No! Surely that message from that hotty who lives on the other side of the country is for real - after all, a stud like you is worth traveling for!

Everything just said about the totally free sites will also hold true for most of the sites with a paid membership option if you only have a free membership. Some of the ones that have the paid membership option will take things a step farther. If you only sign up for a free membership, within a day or two, you’ll start getting messages from women - but the catch is you can’t contact them or even view their profile without paying for a membership. Hmmm. Could those messages you’re getting be a trick to get you to buy a paid membership? Surely not! But once you do buy a membership, suddenly those women who were so hot for you just drop off the face of the earth. Strange how that works! I tried several adult dating sites with free memberships, and of the ones I signed up with, there were only three where I didn’t run into this trick which is why I recommend those sites on my main website. I won’t mention them by name here, but if you want to know which adult dating sites seem to be legit - just check out the recommended sites on my blogroll.

Now, you can hope for the best, and every once in a while you might actually meet a woman to hookup with with a free membership, but if you want to get laid, you really need to pony up the bucks to get the paid membership. With a paid membership on a decent dating site, you’ll usually get some perks - higher placement in searches, ability to view full profiles, pictures, etc.. Some sites also offer additional perks for "deluxe" memberships, such as a limited time exclusive on contacting new female members (this can be a HUGE advantage, given the large amount of competition you’ll face when contacting women).

So, if you’re looking for hookups through adult dating websites, do yourself a favor and pay for a membership - and if money is not a problem, pay for the most deluxe membership they have.