Many women use sex as a tool to get what they desire from their partner. However, have you as women ever thought about you are saying to your partner when you withhold sex. In his mind, you are stating such things as:

• The dinner party, movie, etc… is more important to her than making love.

• She does not enjoy having sex with me

• I am not satisfying her

• Something is wrong with me, since she does not want to make love

These are just a few of the things that begin to develop in your partner’s mind when you withhold sex. If every time you do not get your way, you withhold sex, your partner is going to wonder why you always have a reason that you do not wish to have sex. This is where you will begin to have marital problems. Soon, he will begin wondering if you have someone else, if he is inadequate in some way, and he may begin to believe that something is wrong with you. There are plenty of other women that would love having sex with him. All you have done is open the door for your partner to have health and psychological problems and possibly send him to the arms of another woman.

It is a proven fact that the human body needs sex and orgasms to maintain overall physical and mental health. Withholding sex for any reasons besides medical is detrimental to not only your partner’s health but yours as well.

Sex and orgasms relieve stress, reduce the risk of heart attacks for women, and reduce the risk of prostate cancer in men. Orgasms alone help our bodies fight off infection. Therefore, sex is an important part of not only a healthy relationship but also a healthy body and balanced mind.

Instead of withholding sex from your partner, learn to communicate. Your partner is not a child that deserves to be punished so severely that it can harm his overall health and well-being. Sex is a wonderful and magical way that two people show just how much they care for one another. Withholding sex is like saying that your love is dependent on whether he gives you what you want when you want it.

Maintaining a healthy sexual relationship is the cornerstone of a great marriage. If you would talk with couples, that have been married over twenty years or more, you would soon realize that sex is one thing that is never withheld, is enjoyed, and is often. Frequent sex will give your mind and body a healthy overhaul that it needs and you of course will feel better, feel loved, and enjoy life more.

Next time you think about withholding sex, think of the health risks that you are allowing such as heart attack and prostate cancer, not to mention the fact that you may be driving your partner away to someone waiting with open arms.