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Some people act out anger feelings by attacking, or trying to control. (

Aggressive) while others use addictions to avoid their feelings. (Dependant-

Addicted). Another option is that some people become introverted and 

depressed.(Depressive) 

There are different ways people feel anger. Usually your body will tell you 

when you are angry. Are you breathing faster? Is your face bright red? Are 

your muscles tense and your fists clenched tight? Do you want to break 

something or hit someone? Anger can make you yell or scream at those around 

you, even people you like or love. Some people keep their anger buried deep 

inside. If you do this, you might get a headache or your stomach might start 

to hurt. You may just feel crummy about yourself or start to cry. It's not 

good to hide your anger, so you should find a way to let it out without 

hurting yourself or others.

Angry people tend to demand things: fairness, appreciation, agreement, 

willingness to do things their way. Everyone wants these things, and we are 

all hurt and disappointed when we don't get them; but angry people demand 

them, and when their demands aren't met, their disappointment becomes anger. 

As part of their cognitive restructuring, angry people need to become aware 

of their demanding nature, and translate their expectations into desires. In 

other words, saying 'I would like' something is healthier than saying 'I 

demand' or 'I must have' something. When you're unable to get what you want, 

you will experience the normal reactions--frustration, disappointment, hurt--

but not anger. Some angry people use their anger as a way to avoid feeling 

hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away. 

The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and 

the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, 

the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you 

can learn to control your reactions. 

There is a great deal of confusion around anger as to whether it is a problem 

or not and then, what to do about it. Anger is the normal, natural human 

emotion that develops whenever you are not happy about something. It is very 

personal in that you might feel angry about a particular thing, but others 

would not. It is an emotion that drives changing that which you are not happy 

with. We now realise that there is nothing wrong with anger, the emotion, 

when managed correctly. 

Suppressing your anger may seem like a viable solution if you shy away from 

confrontation. However, there are two possible pitfalls with this approach. 

The first is that your suppressed anger could turn inwards on yourself, 

causing a host of physiological and psychological problems. The second is 

that you may become passive-aggressive, 'getting back' at people indirectly, 

or developing a permanently hostile attitude. 

Good communication is imperative when it comes to managing your anger. Slow 

down and think carefully over what you are about to say. It is easy to get 

caught up in your anger and say something hurtful or inaccurate - as clichéd 

as it may seem, 'counting to 10' can be useful.