There's a clear difference between men and women when it comes to sex: for men, it's the destination. For women, it's the journey. While the occasional quickie or make up sex can be rather exciting for women, in most cases, women prefer the slow roasted technique. Here's a general overview of how to drive a woman wild in bed: from start to a screaming finish.

Warming Up

Pleasing a woman in bed doesn't just start in the bedroom: it begins long before the lights go out. Women are turned on by confidence, flirtation, innuendo and wit. So if you're emailing or talking on the phone, you can say something like, "I'm looking forward to seeing you. And if you were here, you'd see for yourself how much I'm 'looking forward' to seeing you." If you're in person, brush your hand along her arm or touch her face while saying something sweet - or naughty. For maximum effect, whisper what you do plan to do to her in her ear when she's least expecting it.

Getting Started

Women like men who put forth the effort to please them. In addition to smelling good and looking good, surprise her with a little gift that shows you've been thinking about her: buy that DVD she's been wanting, her favorite chocolate, a small picture frame for a photo of you two or something from Victoria's Secret. Tell her how special she truly is to you, how beautiful she is, and how great she looks. Stress that you want to give her so much pleasure in bed and will do whatever it takes. Rub her shoulders and start to give her little kisses on her face, neck, hands, and arms.

Getting It On

OK, showtime. One of the most important things to remember about pleasing women is they do not like to be rushed. Take it all slowly. Unpeel articles of clothing one by one in a sexy manner. For added excitement, take her clothes off - with your teeth. Give your partner's body a lot of attention, from head to toe. Start with some nibbling and kissing...everywhere but. Ask her what she likes and what she wants. Whisper dirty thoughts in her ear: what you want to do with her, what you're going to do with her. The more creative, the better. Add some mystique to the evening by using a blindfold or some other element of surprise to heighten her senses.

Post-Game Wrap Up

OK, so you just gave your lady friend the best orgasm of her life and she can't move. But don't kick her out of bed just quite yet. Make her remember this night forever by staying by her side, caressing her (yes, cuddling), joking around with her, and offering to get up and get a drink. You do that and all the other steps, and it's pretty assured that she'll be coming back for more.