Waiting for that perfect Christian dating partner can be a difficult and faith stretching experience. Many singles suffer from depression just thinking about how long it's been since they've had a meaningful date.

If you're a single Christian, no doubt the hardest part has been waiting on the Lord for that special soulmate. This is especially true as you see your single friends meet their dream dates, get married and move on. Loneliness and anxiety starts to creep in as we wonder when God will bless us.

Although King David did not have Christian dating in mind when he wrote Psalms 13, many single people waiting for a mate can certainly identify with his feelings in verse 1: " How long O Lord? Will you forget me forever?"

Are you a single Christian girl or guy struggling with your faith in the area of "waiting on the Lord" for a husband or wife? Be encouraged and recall that David, whom God described as a man after His own heart, also struggled. Yet, it's interesting that during the time he wrote Psalms 13, he also penned Psalms 62:1: "My soul waits in silence for God only."

If you read the rest of Psalms 62, you'll see David could wait upon the Lord because he had a calm, confident expectation that God would do exactly what He promised: He would meet David's needs.

Recently, I had a single woman come up to me quite confused over the Christian dating issue. Although she wanted so much to be married to a godly man, she was torn over whether using Christian dating services meant she was no longer waiting on God for His provision.

How about you? Are you confused over how you should approach Christian dating and waiting on God? If so, consider these questions to guide your actions and test your heart motives:

• Does God's word and/or uncontrollable circumstances preclude you from taking action toward entering a dating relationship? If so, this may be the time to silently wait on Him, resting in His promises to provide.

• Have you done all that you could do in your particular situation? Remember, God wants us to take faith-filled risks as we ask, seek and knock (Matthew 7:7). Many times we claim to be "waiting on God" before making a move on a matter, but God has already given permission to simultaneous take action while honouring him as well.

• Do your attitude and actions show that your soul is submitted to God's will and resting on His promises? Or are you hell bent on taking your Christian dating life into your own hands because you fear losing out on that single man or woman?

As you meander through the Christian singles dating scene, remember that waiting on God and taking proactive steps toward your dating goal need not be an either/or proposition. Just make sure as a Christian single, your heart is aligned with God's each step of the way.