Nothing is more important in life, than love and relationship. So, when we lose such a great thing in our life, it’s going to hurt a lot for sure. But if you don’t overcome pain in your heart, it can even kill you from inside. So, how to get over the break up pain, which will be the first step towards getting your ex back ?

Cry, very helpful

I know breaking up with your lover can hurt a lot. That’s the reason you should cry. Crying gives a path for you to expel the pain from your heart. You can even share all our feelings with your friends and relations whom you trust and who can embrace and encourage you.

But don’t cry everywhere

I told that you can cry and share your pain of break up with your friends. But don’t make that a habit. Don’t keep telling about your break up to everybody you see. Cry in an isolated place where nobody can watch you cry. Crying is good, but within its limits. When you keep on thinking only about pain in your heart and getting your ex back, it will only increase the pain.

Start smiling

It’s understandable that you will be in deep pain for a few days after break up. But, you need to come out of it. Start smiling at everybody, even if it aches at the heart, start smiling. Smiling has wonderful good properties to heal your heart. When you start smiling at everybody, they will return back the same smile to you, which can be a mental booster for you.

Become Strong and Confident

Have you been trying to hide yourself from your ex, start showing up confidently before them, if you had meet them just say a "hi and smile", that’s it, don’t talk anything other than that. Look into your ex eyes without any desperation, give him/her a hint that you not worrying anymore. Start doing some exercises, make new friends, hang out with friends, and erase everything that hurts you. Become a new YOU. This is a very important step in getting your ex back.

Don’t ever contact:

I told you that you can look at your ex and say a "hi". But that’s only when you had to meet due to circumstances, unless avoid them as possible as you can. The reason I asked you to say a "hi and smile" is, if you hide yourself from your ex and don’t see him/her, it will pass a message to them, that either you are worrying or angry. Both worry and angry are the symbols of a weak human being. So don’t do that.

Back to not contacting, if you start contacting and begging for your ex to return back with you, it will only KILL your self respect and dignity. This will in turn instead of guiding you towards getting your ex back; will pull you away from getting your lover back.

So, start being happy, improve yourself, come out pain, desperation and depression, This is the first step towards getting your ex back, which otherwise can kill your hear gradually.