You have always had a wonderful life with her, except for that single event or some series of events which eventually led to break up. She had always been so wonderful and you still love her much. You now feel that it’s important in your life to win your ex wife back. Good decision man… but these 2 things will destroy your dream of getting back with your wife forever.

Instant reconciliation:

If you ever think that you can win back your ex wife instantly, you are wrong, it doesn’t happen that way. As it takes time to build a relationship or break a relationship, it also takes time to rebuild a relationship. If you just try to force your wife into relationship again, she will only resist more and more strongly repel away from you. Give your ex wife and yourself some time to settle down.

Panic and Desperation:

In the eyes of women, being desperate equals to being needy. No woman likes a man who appears to be needy. In their dictionary, the meaning of being needy is ugly. Accept the break up, respect your ex wife’s decision, this alone will bring you a step closer to your wife. Start living without her, don’t tell yourself the lie of "I can’t live without her", because "you can" and you need to live without your wife for some time in order win your ex wife back.

Don’t bombard with your wife with millions of text messages, calls and IMs, this will only make them think of you as a pest which always gives trouble. Instead spend that time on improving yourself. Work out what had gone wrong, and start acting to correct that one thing which went wrong. This commitment you have put in to make yourself more valuable to your ex wife alone will bring her many steps close to you.

When you honestly think that you have corrected yourself, and have invested in yourself to make yourself a very new and better person that your ex wife would love to have in her life, call her. Again this doesn’t mean calling her up and begging, I have already said being desperate= being ugly. So just call her up and ask whether she would have coffee with you. Be as natural as possible and don’t give a slight hint about yourself trying to win your ex wife back. Then as you start talking with her slowly, just be her friend and show her your true value now as a changed individual. You need not try any more to win your ex wife back. She will herself snatch you back into her life.