Allow me to share with you my own story of the tactics I employed to get my ex to pursue me, and you can use my experience to get your ex to pursue you as well. I learned this from one of those "get your ex back" e-books and I could not be happier with the results. These tips are based on proven strategies that use human psychology, so I know they will work just as well for you as they did for me.

I was dating my ex for about two years. I thought things were going great, and I felt totally in love with this girl, so I did all of the things that I now know to ruin relationships. I called her everyday, I allowed myself to stay on the phone with her for hours, I did things for her to show her how I cared, and in the end, I just basically smothered the life out of our relationship.

Once in a great while, she would do a little something for me, and this seemed to placate me into believing that we had something special. Suddenly, I noticed that her not answering my calls was becoming a regular happening. The more she did not answer my calls, the more I tried calling her, and basically made a pest out of myself. Finally, after enough needling on my part, she told me she no longer felt that we were compatible. She broke my heart.

As the months began passing, I was still in denial that the relationship was really over, so I called her at least once a week. I would call under the guise that I was just checking up on her to make sure she was okay but, in the end, I always tried to talk her into changing her mind. It took about four months of this before I discovered the concept of no contact. The main principle behind this is to let the ex chase you.

It was at this point that I decided to stop calling. I did not tell her, I just cut off contact, and began trying to just live my life. It took about two months and then one day, out of the blue, she called me to "see if I was okay". I purposely did not answer the call. After waiting what I thought was the right amount of time, I called her back. Then, after waiting like a half hour, I got myself into a great mood, and I called her back and told her everything was great! "Thanks for asking". We proceed to have a really fun and flirty conversation, and after about fifteen minutes, I tell her I have to go. She sounds all bummed out but she understands and lets me go. Things are looking good so far.

Then, the next morning at 9AM, I am awakened by my phone. It's her! This time I answer and she was practically begging me to let her come over to my house that evening and cook me dinner. I can't believe it! Is this the same girl? I then tell her that it sounds great, but I have plans already, so I suggest another day in the week. She acted completely disappointed that she could not see me that night, but agreed to my suggested day, and we ended up having the best date we have ever had.

Now, at this point, it's like the whole dynamic of our relationship has changed. I cannot get her to leave me alone. I allow her to initiate the majority of all contact between us. She asks me out on dates and she is the one who is acting all nice and affectionate. It is so awesome!

So here is the deal. This is all based on one simple fact of human psychology, and that is that everyone wants what they can't have, and everyone values what they have to work for to get. You have to understand the idea that, while it may seem that you are "playing hard to get", the reality is that you have to make yourself hard to get because you are so busy with your great life. If you are sitting around the house, hoping the ex will call, then chances are good that they will not. Time drags on forever when you are waiting for something to happen.

Making a great and busy life for yourself is how to make your ex pursue you.