Love relationships and fireplaces are very similar. Both can bring warmth and a feeling of comfort into our homes and make it a cozy haven to help us escape from the harsh realities of life. However, it takes hard work to make this happen.

To keep the flame of love burning in your relationship, you shall have to add the wood to keep this fire burning at the same rate at which it gets consumed.

The beginning of any romantic relationship is full of spark. The spark becomes brighter and mightier when you add fuel such as chocolates, flowers, love notes, love bites, candle light dinners and just being together. Soon routine sets in and you and I, let other things to consume us. Our work, kids, housework seem to take all our time, and we are left with no time for keeping the flame of love burning brightly.

No longer are candle light dinners, long walks, hugs, holding hands and doing other things together, important. Instead the man finds warmth on the couch in front of the TV and the wife finds her affection in a book.

Many of you, who are still with me, must be thinking – “Wow, this is really us!” So how can we ensure that the romance and passion stay alive?

If we desire something with a deep intensity and passion, we shall also have to work hard with purposeful intention to make it work. So in order to keep the fire burning, you shall have to work, be ready to make the effort and also be prepared to do things which you would never have done, before.

1. Be prepared for the cold and harsh winters before they come

An intelligent person will always try to be prepared knowing that cold season is approaching. This means that the person shall have enough firewood cut and stored to keep him warm and comfortable. Similarly, you should set aside some money to indulge yourself in things that can keep the passion alive in your relation. Plan special dates, candle light dinners, or just some time away from everyone and stay warm.

2. Do not wait for too long; feed the fire on time to keep it burning

Understand that you sometimes need to get away from the regular environment and go to someplace new. This shall help you feed the fire regularly and continuously. Send your beloved flowers, gifts, or just go for a long drive. Surprise your partner by calling him and saying ‘I just called to say, I love you’. This is very effective. Watch the sparks fly once again.

3. Know your firewood

Make serious attempts to know your likes and dislikes. Find out what your lover likes to eat, what’s his favorite color, what kind of movies does he like etc. And if you are not sure what turns him on or off, Ask! It’s better to ask than experiment.

However if your relationship has died and grown cold, you shall have to start all over again. The best way to revive the fire is to feed it a little at a time. Revisit your courting days and do the same things you did back then. Late night phone calls, flowers, candy, perfumes, toys, hugs, stealing kisses and watch the fire come back to life. Remember, when the fire dies, it’s not just the fireplace which becomes cold, but the whole house!

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