The first time you're talking dirty to a new man, you probably don't know which direction to take. What does he like? Does he even like dirty talk? How far is going too far? You can gauge these things by asking a few questions as you begin your dirty talk conversation:

Is he the dominant type? If he says yes, then he's the kind of man who needs to be in control of what you're doing. He gets off on telling you what to do, and especially on knowing that you're happy to do it. The dominant type loves to be listened to, so if he starts ordering you around or telling you how things are going to be, just go with the flow.

Is he the submissive type? If he's submissive, he wants to be controlled. He wants a strong, powerful woman who can handle him and tell him exactly what she expects of him. He might also like being punished if he doesn't "please" you appropriately. A submissive man will obey your every whim, so count yourself lucky to have someone who pays such attention!

Is he kinky? You can almost immediately tell the kinky types from the more conservative ones. The kinky man will be up for almost anything. He's the one who will suggest anal sex, bondage, and other naughty things that are on the fringe. If you're a kinky one yourself, the match just might be made in heaven!

Does he like dirty talk? This is a big indicator of how your relationship will go. He might be dominant or submissive, and he certainly might be kinky - but if he's the strong, silent type, you might have a problem in the long term. Dirty talk can be the cornerstone to a healthy, growing sexual relationship. Without it, the sounds of silence might be exciting for a while, but eventually they will become boring. Dirty talk will strengthen the thrill!

So don't be afraid to ask your man what he thinks of dirty talk, kinky play, or being a dominant or a submissive. You might be pleasantly surprised to find he's into all of those things - and once you've found a man like that, you're in for a rockin' good time!