Falling in Love – Feel It

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  • Author Carol Jackson
  • Published January 11, 2010
  • Word count 554

Falling in love at first sight is glorious when it happens because, for some inexplicable reason, it seems to be long lasting than the average relationship. Perhaps it is because we are prepared to let love unfold gradually in such circumstances rather than burdening it with our hopes and expectations. And, as the feelings are likely to be both passionate and exciting, there is more of a motivation to see where the attraction leads.

Some people claim that love at first sight indisputably happens. They seem to imply that each of us is fated to meet that special someone who has been prepared for us from the time our lives began, and that upon meeting, intense and overriding emotions will take over us, providing irrefutable proof that this is our one and only true love.

If you understand the previous explanation, then you may have already guessed why we sometimes fall in love with someone at first sight: simply because we found a person who met many of our unconscious criteria.

For example if a guy had dark skin and deeply loved his mother, then it’s likely that his unconscious criteria include that the girl should have white skin and that it would be great if she had some feature that reminded him of his mother. Of course it’s not that simple; the criteria can be very complex and may be formed of very many items

A Simple Touch

While it may be called love at first sight, touch can still play a major part in this happening. It doesn't take much, but a light touch can be enough to send a spark through another person. For women, that means a slight touch on his arm or hand. Men you can brush an arm or even brush her hand, say when handing her a drink.

Loving someone at first sight is possible, only that this type of love may not be as deep as when you're already in the relationship and you already know the person. Some even tend to correct the line, believing that infatuation at first sight is a more suitable description.

There are many couples whose relationship has begun in this way, but mere physical attraction, however strong, is not enough in itself to provide a basis for a lifelong relationship. This brings us on to the real heart of the question "what is love" -- what is it that enables us to have a long-term, even lifelong, relationship with another human being?

It certainly can begin with attraction of the "love at first sight" kind, or something approaching that in intensity, though with some love relationships physical attraction is not the catalyst to start them into life. But from whatever basis a relationship begins -- physical attraction or friendship or other circumstances -- if the relationship is to continue and the individuals concerned are not to "fall out of love", they must find each other's personalities delightful.

Experts say that falling in love at first sight has more to do with outward appearances or a particular facial feature. There is nothing scientific about it. Most of us have an image in our minds about how we would like our prospective partner to look like, even detailing minor details such as the color of the hair and the eyes.

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