When your boyfriend dumps you, it is difficult to reason clearly through the emotional hurt of grief and abandonment. In their desperation to get their ex boyfriend back, women often resort to unproductive strategies that fail utterly. Instead of winning their ex boyfriend back, they only push their ex further away. If you want to earn your ex boyfriend back, you should avoid doing the following blunders at all costs.

1. Do Not Try to Coerce Your Ex Boyfriend Back to You

Your ex-lover will know coercion for what it is. It will make your ex-boyfriend mad, and they will resent you for it. No one enjoys being coerced.

When you try to coerce your ex boyfriend back to you, you are sending several unpleasant messages to your ex-boyfriend.

First, you are ultimately stating that what you want is more valuable than what your ex-lover wants. This is extremely selfish of you, and your ex-boyfriend will identify this as selfish-and they'd be right.

Second, attempting to coerce your ex boyfriend back to you essentially means you are attempting to defy their freedom to make their own decisions. Your ex-boyfriend will recognize this as disrespectful-which it is.

2. Do Not Plead, or Attempt to Evoke Remorse or Sympathy

Begging shows desperation, which pushes men away. Trying to evoke guilt or sympathy in your ex are kinds of emotional coercion. Your ex-boyfriend will resent this for the same reasons discussed previously. Your ex-lover will be irritated, upset, and resentful that you are causing them to feel that way. If you always attempt to evoke such bad emotions in your ex, they will start avoiding you.

These tactics will also make your ex-lover lose respect for you. It is tough to respect a girl who is being pathetic (worthy of pity). Could YOU respect a man who is trying to emotionally blackmail you?

3. Do Not Issue Demands

Ultimatums are manipulative, empty, and useless. First, making ultimatums is completely pointless, because you have utterly no way to implement them. Your ex-boyfriend will recognize this immediately.

Second, you don't really posses the authority to demand your ex-lover to do anything. If you do try to violate their liberty, your ex-boyfriend will be understandably angry by your presumption.

If you love a boyfriend, you don't attempt to control them. Your ex-boyfriend must freely choose to return to you, or not at all.