Unless you have an exceptionally high sex drive it’s sometimes hard to feel sexy. Day to day life can leave all of us feeling a bit under valued and unattractive and lead to us not being 'in the mood'.

Injecting sexiness and lust back into a relationship often sounds harder than it actually is, but within a week you become as lustful as a couple of teenagers. It just takes a small amount of time and thoughtfulness to turn complacency into passion.

Beginners

Sometime the simplest things are the most effective and for you a passionate full on kiss every day will boost your lust levels. Don’t make this snog wait until you’re tucked up beneath your duvet. The kiss needs not to be not a lead up to sex, but a ‘god your sexy’ snog. So, kiss before you leave the house, when you arrive home, when you meet in town, before you get out of the car; when you have gone through the supermarket checkout. There are hundreds of times and places where you could plant this full on kiss, try not to use the same place twice.

Until you get into the habit of randomly snogging it may feel a bit uncomfortable, but as the days go by it will feel less unusual, and it will do wonders for your love life.

Accomplished Lovers

As with the beginners you need to make a point of random daily snogging to increase lust levels. As you kiss, cup your partner’s face in your hands, massage their neck, grab a fistful of hair maybe, or whatever it is you know sends shivers down their spines.

In addition, to undo weeks, months or maybe years of complacency you need to pay one another a compliment every day for a week, however it would be nice to continue this tip. The compliment doesn’t just have to be about their appearance or when you know they have made an effort to look nice. You could also compliment them on something they do well, preparing a wonderful meal, making you happy, being organised, or something about them personally, their sexy smile, beautiful eyes, nice fragrance. Compliments become easier to give the more you give them, so if you find it really difficult you have a lot of work to do.

Feeling appreciated and desired makes you feel sexy and more attractive which leads to more passionate sex.

Outrageously Kinky Lovers

You need to practise all of the above in your day to day life as well as going the extra mile. You need to something sexy every day, which isn’t directly sex related. Why not go without underwear for the day, send your lover an erotic text or email. Maybe you could dress sexily and exchange tights for stockings, leave a saucy lust letter in your partners pocket, or go to the corner shop in just a long coat and shoes. Have you engaged in phone sex with your partner during your lunch break? The sexy activity can be a secret for you to enjoy alone, or for you both to enjoy as a couple.

Doing something sexy every day makes you feel erotic and sexually attractive and it focuses your mind on thinking eroticism on a daily basis, therefore increasing your lustiness.

Your Thoughts and Tips

Steph - If you're feeling frustrated about a loss of libido on either your or your partner's part, try just taking off the pressure and slowing things right down. Maybe you don't pay enough attention to one another and then wonder why you jump into bed and don't feel like sex? Go back to being teenaged and find your excitement in kissing and touching fingers, slowly stroking skin on more innocent parts of each other like the shoulders, face and hands. Take your time about it, don't assume that you are leading to anything heavier... Before long you should find your pulse quickening like it hasn't in a while!