A steamy night in with champagne and music is amazing erotic fun. However, once the camera comes out and the guard comes down, the results can be devastating.

I was going through the amateur section of my

porn tube, doing routine checks and found the most disturbing thing I have ever seen. My ex, naked.

My ex-girlfriend is 32, lives in New York and works for a publishing company. She is a smart career-driven woman with a great head on her shoulders. So I thought.

No one knows better than me that 28,258 Internet users are viewing pornography EVERY SECOND. There is a strong chance that someone you know: a co-worker, family member or friend will find that nude picture of you, especially if the picture is tagged with your name. Some sites don't allow real names to be posted. Some sites, however, increase the ex's embarrassment by publishing their name and link to their Facebook, etc. In this case, the picture was tagged as "horny brunette begs for dick." I was devastated.

There is simply no way to guarantee your photos won't end up on hundreds of websites. You will feel violated and afraid. You will hate the person that betrayed you (usually an ex) and have problems trusting men in the future. You will cry and wish you could take that one night back. With categories on porn tube sites catering toward embarrassing ex's, men are encouraged to exploit their former flames.

After a few drinks, we're all more likely to let our guard down and take our top off. I highly recommend disallowing even a spouse to photograph you naked. It is truly a mistake you can never take back.

That's not to say you can't have a little fun…Take those racy photos all you want, but make sure that you are in control of what happens to them:

-Don't let the memory stick leave the digital camera.

-If it is a film camera, destroy the film after the photos are developed.

-If you want to videotape yourself, make sure there is no tape in the camera at all.

-Hook the camera up to the TV and watch the action live or if you want to do a play-by-play make sure you control the tape.

-Hiding the tape isn't good enough. Destroying the tape is the only way to ensure you won't be betrayed…

Follow these tips and give yourself invaluable piece of mind. The last thing you want is your brother finding your naked body on the web. Trust me, he doesn't want that either.