I was with my wife for 21.5 years. The last 2.5 yrs, she became hateful & distant. I tried everything to bring her back to how we were, nothing worked. (change of life/hormones). After being told how she was NOT attracted to me, didn't want me sexually, and etc., I began to stray. I met a 23 yr old woman. Although 23, she had the maturity and intelligence of someone in their 30's or 40's. It was a strong attraction on both parts. I was gruelling over the age difference, thinking of how it could never work, etc. I finally gave into it and had a full blown affair with her. It became so strong, I finally gave into the fact that I wanted to be with her as in leaving my marriage for her. I told her I would leave my wife for her. I told my wife there was someone else I wanted to "Date", that I would give her the divorce she threatened me with for 2.5 yrs prior. 2 days later, my wife cried and told me she didn't want a divorce, that she'll change. This obviously caused issues with the one I fell in love with and wanted to be with. I have young kids involved. After talking and thinking, I decided to follow my heart and go with the 23 yr old. Her mother knows me, and her live in boyfriend she was leaving knew of me. They confronted her and asked her if it was me....she wouldn't admit it. I told her to tell them all about us, that it was time. She turned around and disappeard for a 3 day holiday w/friends without a word to me, which of course he was at. Then she came back, we got together for a day, which was fantastic, she seemed a little distant, but still I could see the love she had for me....then she and I had words about the situation, and she has disappeared with no contact. I think honestly, she got scared by it all. I know she's never felt this strongly for anyone, hell, I haven't either, but I think the fear of it all, her mom/boyfriend has pushed her away. (her mom's working with the boyfriend because she does not want her daughter w/me which I understand). I don't chase anyone or try to talk them into something, so it will end where she leaves it. It was the most devistating thing that's happened to me in my life so far. I miss her terribly.

Ok, well I'm going to try and make this short, but even though I've only know him for a little more than a year, I just told the guy I have very strong feelings for that I love him (yesterday). He is 43 and I am 18. I have not told my parents yet, I am soo scared to tell my mom because I feel as though she will not approve, and I don't want to risk not being able to see him and whatnot. I just need some advice to help relieve the stress I am feeling about somehow telling my mom about this. At first ( i will admit) it was lust, but what relationship isn't based on lust at first. Until I got to know him that is. He just makes me feel so good. He treats me great. We're very good friends and talk so much and spend time together, still secretly until I can find a way to announce to my mom that i do love him. I haven't been able to sleep lately and I believe it is because i am so stressed about it. I don't want to keep him a secret, I love him, but I don't want to disappoint my family, especially my mom. Should I wait a while more?? I cry when I think about my mom just "taking him away". Honestly, I'm crying right now. Please I just need some advice.

I'm 20 and the ideal guy should be at be 4 years older...

I am 24 yrs old and the love of my life is 39. He treats me like a queen and he is there for me emotionally. His partying and wild days are over and he is only comitted to me. We have been friends for 2 years without anything sexual or romantic. That is what built a strong foundation for the both of us. I was worried about the 15yr age difference but I dont worry about it anymore. The heart wants what it wants and I wouldnt have it any other way. I love this man with all my heart!

Welllll. the guy that I am smitten with is 80 and I am 42. He is like a fine artist to me with the life that he has led. He can talk about 40's music, or 90's music. He's sexy and well spoken and masculine and just makes me swoon. We make each other happy.. So I just enjoy!

Wow, after reading this great to know there are more like me out there...Never having a real father figure to be strong and make decisions and provide security (emotional and financial) i believe had a hand in all this. Wouldent change it,some men mature so slowly sometimes you cant tell the difference. But I wil say make sure they will keep up sexually, (sorry, its important) even if they are just willing to please you. (Can you live with them not needing it years from now, what about your ego needing to please a man??) My average is 13-15 years older. Dunno why, I am 40 and my guy is 55 soon to be 56. And I loved them but have usually needed more sex and cheated. All girls under 25( You too..A Lil Bashful... You have so much changing to do yet, careful putting your eggs in that basket. Ther is just so much about life in general to learn. they already have, and they seem to have it all figured out, thats y they are attractive..but Its just THEIR take on things..You need to get your own views as you get older. And they dont have it all figured out and they are not always right. Good Luck with mom. She's not stupid either, remember all the amazing knowledge HE has so does MOM. 41/46...Yeah...

I am 21 and the man in my life is 46 and we have been dating for 2yrs now and things are going great. THe problem is that I can't find out how to introduce him to my mom because he has proposed to me. My mom is 41 and i don't knw what to do because of our age differences but i love him so much. Neither of us have children but we both want some one day(after i graduate 4rm college). how should i introduce him, because he's already introduce me 2 his parents.

I am 23yrs old and the love of my life is a 39yr old guy! I believe that age is just a number! I don't care what anyone says about our 16yr age difference. I love him and noone can say anything to change that. He makes me feel whole and treats me like I want to be treated. He is also a terrific father figure in my childrens lives. I am divorced.

I am 26 and I like a guy who is 20 years older than me. I don't know why but I have always been atracted to older men, even when I was a little girl I had a cruch on my teacher.

I'm 20 years and my boyfrind is 36 years old. We have our differnces but I don't think I could love someone else that much.To make things better, he is my first love and I am his first love in the true sense. We feel as though we have known each other for many years and we have only met seven months ago. He's attracted to my spirituality and I'm attracted to his honesty and maturity. Astrologers try to prove us wrong but we prove them wrong instead. Why should I give him up because he's 16.5 years older? That's society's problem, not mine. True love is hard to find and guess what?...........I've found it!!!!!

I am a young vital and vivacious 32 year old woman. I had met this man nearly 10 years ago when I was a struggling young woman with too much interest in the world and not enough know how to do anything about it. I was writing about arts and culture for a small magazine and he was the marketing director for an arts organization. There was something about him. Something unexplainable that I just felt when we were in each others presence. I stood like the woman I wanted so desperatly to be. I spoke and laughed in ways that suggested a charming maturity. I felt more a sense of my inherent self than I had ever before. We only met on two occasions but those two occasions left me with a profound sense of admiration for this "older" man. Nothing more...just a sure sense of wanting to know him as he made me feel alive. He was not even in my scope of possibilities..older men never really had been. Especially ones older than my father. Fast forward 10 years and I am now working for the arts organization. I had taken a simple job there nearly 8 years ago but he had recently left for another job and so we had no connection at that time. This time however it came upon me like a storm. I noticed him...he looked familiar. I asked around and it turned out that shortly after I left he had come back. The brown haired man was now grey...but the sparkle...the light and the laughter was still very much there. We started as just chatting with each other as one would to get to know another. He did not remember me in my youth and I forgave him for this. One night we decided to have dinner to talk over some plans for the organization. By the end of dinner I had a feeling that this man was about to lay a move...I thought "oh hell how do I get out of this...he is kidding right". I'm an attractive socially connected woman...i don't need to look for a date. Especially with a grey haired old man. Then as we to say goodnight he leaned in for a hug and instead dropped his face to land a kiss. As soon as it was coming I thought..."turn your head..quick..turn your head" but I wasn't fast enough and his lips met mine and it was like a lightbulb bursting when a flip is switched to quickly. It took me two seconds to decide to lean back in for more. I got out of the car in such a swirl that I remeber laughing and pressing my hands to my lips. What the hell had just happened? He...i worked with him..he...much much older...me...did i just do that...complication everywhere. That was the beginning. It has been a certian trial in times for the two of us to try to move beyond the age. I saw it as novelty or atleast that is what i told myself so as to hide the depth of what I had been feeling. After time it has revealed that this man whom is 60 years old has shown to be maybe the absolute love of my life. A 28 year age difference and i feel nothing. We somehow are linked. Like the souls we carry share a common thread of understanding the world. He is so young and progressive. Readt to take on the world. I live a fairly busy and exciting life...it is hard for most men to keep up. This man could not only keep up but could easily convince me to stay home and snuggle on the couch instead of attending the next social engagement. What i've learned from this...love is love is love! I know that it will help in the process of the rest of my life to have had this experience with this man. I don't know that I have ever adored a man more in my life. It is amazing.

I am 31 and he is 56. For me age is just a number. Life is too short to dwell on other peoples opinion. I love this man and he loves me back. We both respect,appreciate, and understand our differnces. He is a very affectionate,successful,and caring man. I enjoy every moment with him. I just can't wait to spend the rest of my life with him.

Im 21 with a man aged 39 (18 yrs of age apart).I love him with a passion & we have been 2gether for only about 4/5 months.It kinda just happened.I respect him and love him dearly.Nothing else matters but the love we share.Nobodys really disapprovred, and if they did,id tell them it aint their business.I know its love and not lust anyway,i can see myself with this man forever.love has no age limits.

The hardest thing about having an old coot for a husband is that when you get finished changing the kid's diaper you have to change his.

Men over 30 are not attractive. While they are past their prime physically they are heading into their prime earning years, though. The only ones to find women, esp. younger ones, are the ones with huge bank accounts. Women are attracted to their money. Old men refuse to realize this.

hello, all my ex-boyfriends were very older than me, I am always appealed to mature men.I fell in love with a Brtitsh man who came to Southamerica to meet me in person in May.We first met on a chat room two years ago.I realy enjoyed to live with him for 2 months. I take him to diferent nice places around Buenos Aires.He is 60 years old and Iam 37.I love him a lot. I miss him very much since he returned to England. I have been feeling lonely and sad all these months. I want to meet him in person again soon and share my life with him forever. we keep in touch by emails and cam chattings on the web.I'll travel to England in December.He is waiting for me there. I think if you love your man deeply you shouldnt mind How old he is and what he looks like.LOVE is the best feeling. PS. sorry, if you don't understand my English very well as my mother tongue is Spanish.

I fell in love with a wonderful man. Im 23 and he is 48 (25 year age difference). When we first met we never expected to be where we are today. We met at work and we started to just pay so much attention to one another it was great. We started off as friends. I felt like I could open my heart to this man and he felt the same. Still to this day there is nothing that we hide from eachother. We also share the same feelings for one another, a feeling that is very hard to find. Sometimes people don't even experience these feelings. I am so lucky. I can tell you that I never felt like this for a man before. And I have dated men my age and my love right now is so different. He's much mor mature and knows how to please me in ways that are un explainable. He treats me so great. He will do anything for me and I will do anything for him. He has 3 kids and I admire there upbringing. I am so happy with him and no one can change my mind. I haven't told my mother about him because I feel like she will not take it well but I can't hide it from her forever. If she ever gets to know this wonderful man she will fall in love with him just like I did. He has a heart of gold and all i believe is to go with your heart. If you can see your future with a man older, and you feel deep down inside that hes your soulmate please don't let other people bring you down. Do what your heart tells you.

I started dating a man 15 yrs older than me in Jan 2007, I was a little skeptical at first because of the age difference and what people would think. But it is now August and I can truly say I love this Man with all my heart and he treats me like a Queen. This is the best decision I could have ever made in choosing a mate. We are to be married in December of this year.

I fell in love when I was 16 and he was 56. Love at first sight. I never lived with him as I thought he was too old and I could manage without him. 24 years on I am 39 he is 79. I still love him with all my heart. I do not live with him but we see each other nearly every day. It has ruined my life by not being with him, and every relationship I have had has failed. He is still with his wife who he was willing to leave for me and still would. I was too afraid to be with him because of the age gap. Instead I am deeply unhappy to be without him. I still love him with all my heart. Always have and always will. I do not know how I will live without him should anything happen to him. My advice is follow your heart not your head. Ignore what anyone else says because at the end of the day you are the one having to live with the consequences. Be true to yourself.

Well I must say I never thought I would date anybody more than 6-7 yrs older than me, but that changed when I got sick of men my age or a bit younger or older, but now I'm dating a man that is 53 yrs old and I'm about 29 about to turn 30. I was worried at first about the age difference but that faded fast. My man treats me so great, loving, with respect, just a great pkg overall!!! Best thing is we were great friends for 10 monthes before we got together so that helped build a strong foundation for us..... I couldnt be happier. Just havent told me father about my relationship, and I'm a fraid he will be very disappointed in me, but I cant change that... my mom on the other hand is ok with it, and told me that she always thought that I would date an older guy... how funny is that!! So for everybody.. you just have to go with your heart and do and be with who makes you happy!!! Good luck everybody!!

I am new at this so excuse me. I just recently met this older guy and he seems cool. I've always liked younger guys and found them to be "FUN". Then i realized that all they were was "FUN". This older gentelman seems more focused and asured of who he is and what he wants. Don't know where this is going but i like the thoughtfulness and genuine concern an older man brings with him. I guess things are better with age.

I am divorced and had no idea that I would ever date someone older than 5 years my age. To my surpise, I met the most wonderful man, 14 years older with a heart of a champion and one that has melted me quite naturally. If there is a such thing and there is much today, of love online. We're there.

I am in love with a man who is 13 years older then me. I am 24 & he is 37 and I would not have it any other way. We have nearly everything in common and the level of emotional intimacy we share is unmatched! When you truly fall in love with someone and experience that pure bliss age is irrelevant.

Love knows no age!! If you find the one that makes you happy, and wow he just happens to be older, go for it!! Life is too short to worry what others will think. Trust me, I am 30 and my man is 48, and I wouldnt trade him for any man in this world! I saw this quote on line and dont know who said it but I like it..." dont settle for the one that you can live with, settle for the one that you cant live without!" Go with what makes you happy!!

I'm falling in love with someone 23 years older than i am....i mean already have! I'm 18 years old turning 19 in April and he will be turning 42 in the same month. I can't even explain how is all started, but he was my uncles best friend. Our relationship has become a wedge between my family. My disfuctional mother approves when i confront her but changes her mind when my uncle influences her that it's wrong. My uncle and boyfriend are room-mates and have been for years. They don't get along for the simple fact of my uncle uses a person for everything they have to offer than abuses them. My and my uncle don't get along and never really have, he doesn't have respect for me nor women and general. I really care about my boyfriend and our relationship has been great. He doesn't look his age and is incredibly fit and outgoing. He has a great sense of humour and can relate to many hardships i've been through. I know he wouldn't cheat, and i know he would do anything to be there for me. He has 2 children age 14 and 15, and i admire their upbringing. I'm sincerely happy and we have always this modive to take day by day and explore what happens. The feelings weren't intentional and neither was the drama within my fmaliy, but it just happened that way.

I'm in love with a man that is 21 years older than me! We both love the same things! He's about to retire from working all his life! How can we do this? Am I crazy?