Doesn’t it always seem that when one thing goes wrong everything does? Everything just starts falling apart piece by piece after a breakup, which is why when you’re attempting to win your ex back, everything can shatter in a matter of a few text messages or phone calls. If you aren’t wary of the consequences that might come from communicating with your ex too much, you might lose your chance of getting back your ex.

That is why you should know about two very silly and very deadly mistakes that many people make after a breakup. They are referred to as "drunk dialing" and "text message terrorism" and are just as they sound and worse.

Drunk dialing is an action that can happen with or without alcohol in the mix but is named for those that drink then make an embarrassing phone call to an ex. This usually happens late at night and generally only makes your ex angrier or happier that he/she left you before realizing what a mess you could become during an emotionally, unstable time. Alcohol in your system only makes the possibility of this occurring more possible.

Text message terrorism can happen at any time of day and isn’t just limited to text messages. Any form of contact that happens excessively falls under this category. No matter what your reasons for this sort of contact are, you will find that it only annoys and bothers your ex to the point that he/she will try to avoid you even more. This action is just you trying to act natural. It’s like grabbing for a rope that isn’t there when you’re falling. It’s useless and only makes the fall feel longer.

Both of these errors can be avoided so long as you have self-control and give your ex about a month to recover. You’ll also be able to recover and put yourself in a controlled environment that will make you a stronger person. In the end you can see that you are for able to make it on your own. You’ll also be giving yourself a chance to make a plan to get your ex back.