In the past a simple and effective method of impressing your ex was buying flowers , candy or even sending love notes. Nowadays , these items wouldn’t do the trick as our world , or let’s just say the financial state of our world takes a huge place in every day relationships , so the part of getting back with your ex with just a simple gift or a small love gesture is just not effective as it was in the past. A flower is too shallow, candy is just too common , leaving a love note would probably end up as an amusement .

Although, the feminine side has gained the reputation of being very self-centered regarding personal profit, a gift can be looked at as a negative thing , it can even become a terrible mistake that can and will transform a nice gesture of love into a small fight , the main ideasof this fight being : “ you want to buy me ? “ or “I'm not for sale” or “ you offend me” or “ I don't need your gifts” and the list can go on forever.

So what should you do, will a gift be a good thing or a bad decision in order to get your love back. In order to help you decide here are a list of situations in which a present/gift would be appropriate or useful. Let us see:

Situation 1: It's a special occasion for her (birthday, name day, etc.). Besides the present you will offer, you should explain to her that this is a major event for you, and even if you're separated or your relationship is a little tense, you couldn't have missed it for anything in the world. This will make her feel very important and will be the first step in making her believe you still love her and convincing her that she has a significant role in your life.

Situation 2: Let's say you and your ex girlfriend  are part of the same group of friends , and you receive an invitation to a party  , either you both receive it from a common friend , or even from your ex lover since you have the same friends. Let's take for example it's her birthday at school/work and she invites her colleagues (may I remind you that you're part of that group of colleagues) to her party. In this situation you should pick wisely her gift. Taking into account that there will be a lot of gifts and all sort of presents , yours must be, and I put emphasis on this, must be something really special, that will totally blow her away. Offer her a gift  that only you and her know about , a gift with a direct link to your ex girlfriend , that will draw her  closer to you than all the rest of the people invited.

Situation 3: Buy her an unforgettable gift . She must desire something , and you probably are the only person who knows that . But there's a catch , that something must be a gift that she can enjoy beside you. Let's take an example : tickets for a rock concert. She really wants to go , but none of her friends like this particular kind of music. Take into consideration , this is only an example , in order to help you understand the situation better. Let's get back to our example. You decide to buy her those tickets , and even thought , the relationship between you two is not working very well , your offer will be too tempting or interesting for her to refuse. It's a simple step , that can prove very useful in your quest of bringing your ex back to you.

Situation 4: Analyze things a bit. Think about all the stuff she wanted and never had the time or the means to get it. A simple example would be an old book  or a certain album she never found. Try to find this small but also valuable gift ( valuable in terms of value to her , not to be mistaken with the word expensive ). Also an important factor would be not to brag about trying to find this gift , keep it cool , act as if it was a random event , you just stumbled upon that particular thing and since you knew she liked that very much , you decided to surprise her.

Situation 5: Since there a lot of possible situations , let's take a more general approach to this matter : buying a gift that concerns your relationship , a particular recent event , thus emphasizing the special importance of her time spent with you . The main idea would be to make her feel special , to feel wanted , loved , to know that you enjoyed every minute , every second spent with her.

Since we have a list of situations where a gift is a good decision , let's present certain moments where a gift will be inappropriate or useless. Try not to give her a gift that reminds her the break up cause , or other inadequate gifts for example : if she thought you are insensitive , don't send a big rose bouquet with a love note attached . What I'm trying to say is that you don't have to be someone else to get her back , you will only look like a hypocrite , she will only see you like a sham , and that's not your goal. Try to be yourself , think the situation before you act , remember that sometimes more doesn't necessarily mean better.