Perhaps you have finally discovered that your man has been having an affair behind your back, and it seems that you were the only person who did not know about it yet. This is something that will leave you in a wild mixture of emotions. One of the things that can make it even more difficult to handle is the fact that he keeps telling you that he loves you. How could he love you instead of the other woman and yet go ahead and have an affair with her?

Of course, this is a very reasonable question, which will show that you have not lost your mind. However, it also indicates that you are so emotionally involved in the issue that your heart seems to help you think. You will count his betrayal as a very personal affront, something that shows how greatly he has betrayed you. You will interpret his cheating to mean that he has turned his back on the life you have worked hard in building together.

Interestingly, there are high chances that your man did not even think about you and your relationship when he started his affair. When he got into the affair, it really had nothing to do with you. It did not have anything to do with love, or its lack in your relationship. In many cases, men start cheating when they are simply thinking about themselves. They usually go for the things they would like to get that they feel their partners are not quite giving them.

Is this supposed to mean that your man cheated because of your own mistakes?

Not really. Your man is an adult who knows how to differentiate what is right from what is wrong. He is very much aware of the fact that he still loves you. He knew that you would be hurt greatly if you discovered about his cheating ways. So, when he started cheating, he knew that it was wrong but focused on his own fulfillment.

However, what this means is that a man will hardly go out and have an affair if everything is perfect in the relationship. If there is nothing missing in the relationship, it will be very difficult for him to go out and look for another woman. This means that, as hurt as you are, it will be important to dig and get to the heart of the matter to determine what prompted him to move out in the first place.

While there are many things that cause men to start affairs, they are usually related to one important thing.

If there are some things that make your man feel that you do not respect him, he will be tempted to look at another woman. You need to learn how to boost his ego. Show respect to different areas of his life, such as the efforts he puts in finding resources for taking care of the family and even his physical appearance.