I admit the reason why when I first started learning this whole seduction, dating, and pickup stuffs that I was having a difficult time than most people and hardly getting any progress was because I was missing the very foundation of social dynamics. None of them ever address on the basic, the core of it all…your natural social skills that set it off and build everything else.

I wasn’t just bad with girls but my poor social skills made me terrible at making friends and connections.

You see a lot of us didn’t grow up with great social skills, and our lack of social skills transition over to making us terrible with women, so try learning pickup without this basic foundation is like learning how to run before walking.

It wasn’t until I started to get and understand this bigger picture was then everything started to fall into place finally.

Dating, attraction, seduction, pickup skills all fall under your social skills. Pickup skills is just only a small portion of your social skills.

If you have exceptional mastered your social skills, picking up women will naturally be effortlessly easy.

I would even break it down even more and say that the way I see it, is that are different categorized sets of your collected social skills. For example, there are ones for when you are hanging with your guy friends, interacting with your clients/coworkers/colleague/boss, and picking up women.

There are guys who have really close guy friends who are always chilling and playing Madden and watching Sunday night football and go out every day and every night, and basically, always bonding like good-ole-pals when they hang out, but are terrible with women.

Then there are the corporate overachievers that seem to have every possession in their lives, people respect them at work, they’re always nailing every clients professionally (no pun intended) making that sale, and constantly getting promotions and bonuses, and overall, have their professional relationships going for them, but they are very lonely and unskilled when it comes to building their personal relationships outside of the profession.

And then there are guys who are exceptional at picking up women, but they fail to get the respect of their family, colleague, and co-workers, and don’t have any close friends because being the one-dimensional pickup artist is all they see that they are so stuck in that narrow pickup mindset to do whatever it takes to get the girl.

Being really good in one area conflict with each other because the social skill sets are completely different. You don’t ever want to be successful in one aspect of your social life but fail at another. Having a healthy balance in your life is extremely important.

That is why you don’t just want to be the one-dimensional pickup artist and alienate other aspects of your social life because that will never make you the most social person you’re cut out to be.

Focus on knowing which set of your social skills to use at the particular right time.