Reverse psychology…an interesting theory that can prove to be very useful in most cases. I say most cases because I’m not going to lie to you and start bragging that this is a simple thing simply because people are so individual… human behavior is very difficult to predict. Our identities make us unique in every single way but this method has proven to be successful.

First of all let’s underline a few major components of reverse psychology: the main thing you should focus on is not getting your ex back, at least not now. You have to achieve self-control before you can attempt to win your ex back. What I’m trying to say is: I know you’re feeling down, you’re probably thinking about your ex 24/7, everything you do you reminds you of your ex, but you have to stay calm, stay controlled. Even if some of the tips given will bring you down a road that might feel a little heart-breaking, you can’t lose focus. You must be self-controlled all times. Don’t beg, don’t break down and start crying in front of your ex, telling how much you need them, even if it’s totally true.

Secondly do not try to make contact with your ex, and by that I mean absolutely NO contact: emails, messages, facebook comments, twitter, instant messaging, all of these are forbidden. If you stumble upon your ex on the street or at a restaurant, don’t give the impression that you’re feeling miserable and desperate. Play it cool, and that will be a major step in getting your love back. You see people are a little bit strange when it comes to things they love or want – we always want what we can’t have and this is the same in our case: we don’t know what we have until it’s gone.

What I’m trying to say is you’ll have more chances to get back together if you don’t offer your ex this control over yourself. Just knowing that you are a constant in their lives, that you will always be there in the background will drive your ex away. But seeing that you’re not desperate and needy, you seem quite all right ( even if it just seems so, it still does the trick very well , provided you maintain that self-control) , that "constant" that I mentioned a few lines ago, will probably fade away. Now the balance of power is shifting, your ex will start to question their selves if they made the right decision by leaving you, your ex will see you as very confident, and start to remember what a wonderful couple you were.

Another thing that I forgot to mention, don’t try to make your ex jealous. I know I said no contact with your ex, but you don’t have to bring a new person in your life, after all you want your ex back, not a new lover.

If they do come back to you, and they will if you do this, and there was a good connection in the past, then the new you, the more attractive, more self-sufficient you that doesn’t need anyone, will get your ex thinking and more importantly with their hearts. Let’s take an example: If a woman felt she left you as a boy and then finds you as a man a few weeks later, coupled with the lack of neediness and a sense of added strength, then your chances at getting back with your ex will greatly increase. This will also give you a mysterious touch as it should come as a bit of a surprise to them.

So far, so good. Especially for you, as a person. Men are more visual creatures in general than women. When they see the ex, and she’s lost weight and looks sexier and more confident, he will rethink the reasons that drove you apart in the first place. Women are both visual and emotional, so even if you show up like Brad Pitt but are still the needy, weak, non committed boy they left, the most you can hope for is "ex sex".

It’s true that you can’t make anyone fall in love with you, but you can increase the chances that they will. These chances are higher with an ex as they’ve already fallen in love with you once. Time apart and you, acting like an adult, not being needy, getting physically fitter and more attractive will make your ex fall for you faster.