In the case which your ex broke up with you comes the real problem mainly because it’s something wrong with them and you have to find out the problem.

If you really want to get your ex back after a breakup based on their decision, you have to try to determine the problem and find the solution. You have to try hard to change based on the situation so you can make things better so there would be no more argues.

Your ex must have broken up with you because of some reasons. Find them out! Check some text messages you sent or think about the things you said that bothered them; find the exact problem of your relationship for which they broke up with you. These are the type of things you must know in order to master the situation and get your ex back.

You have to be a better person according to what your ex needed. Try to satisfy their needs and even more: be unpredictable and make them a surprise of something they really like, raise yourself to a level above your ex’s expectations.

But now let’s focus on getting your ex love back. Well, even if they broke up with you, believe me, you’re still in their head… which clearly is an advantage for you. What I mean to say is that your actions still do matter! This basically is a psychological issue: now that you’re apart, she sees your actions differently and from an objective point of view… which is also good! So… try to impress your ex lover, try to show them you’re capable of change and also what a great person you are. Your ex will notice and will take into consideration more than you think.

Another psychological event is removing the bad impressions that your ex has regarding you. Transform your defects into qualities. But more than that, show your ex this! Even if it’s a thing you can’t change… try to show your ex you changed it. Another option of removing those bad impressions is renewing your ex’s mind with good impressions. The more qualities he or she will find in you, the more they will lose sight of the defects.

In order for you to win your ex back you have to make a lot of compromises. You must make her forget the reasons why she left you and continue building a newer better relationship without making the same mistakes over and over again. Your patience and devotement will be rewarded.

This will not work just by asking them to meet you and just telling them you have changed or you intend to change because he or she will see this only as worthless words determined by the fact that you are broken hearted and would say anything to get him or her back. You have to make her/him see that you changed. Actions not words! When you unintentionally meet do something she wouldn’t expect, opposite to what you were doing in the relationship that bothered him/her and caused the breakup. Play it cool and keep showing them you changed and are a different person and he or she will come back to you.