It is inevitable that you are going to have a low opinion of yourself after getting dumped by your girlfriend. However, no matter how low you are feeling at the moment, be aware that there are things to say to get your girl back. In fact, many guys do this and wind up resuming the relationship exactly where they left off.

The first thing you should be saying right now is that you accept the breakup and you wish her the best. Yes, that's right - as incredible as it sounds, if you are able to do this, she is going to change her attitude towards you. Sometimes the threat of losing something is enough to make a person realize what they had.

Make sure that you don't blow it by caving in and telling her that you are going to miss her and that you still love her. Keep it short and to the point.

The next thing you will want to do is stay away for a few weeks. This is going to give her time to think about what you said. And, believe me, she is going to be thinking. The fact that you aren't contacting her, is going to make this technique even more powerful.

At this point, it is not so much what you say, but what you don't say that is going to have the maximum effect on her. Try to completely forget about her and try living your life as though you have always been single. Hang out with friends and expand your social circle. If you happen to get friendly with someone of the opposite sex, that's okay. As long as it doesn't look like you are doing it for your ex girlfriend's benefit. If it looks like you are intentionally trying to make her jealous, it is going to make you look insecure.

After a few weeks, you will want to consider contacting her again. This is, of course, if she hasn't contacted you first. Make sure that you keep your emotions in check and simply ask her if she wants to meet up for a coffee – no strings attached. If all you can think about is things to say to get your girl back, then you may not be ready. You are still taking things a little too seriously – relax a bit.

During the meeting, it is important that you have a bit of a carefree attitude and that you avoid any sort of negative emotion. Simply treat her as a friend and nothing more. But that is not to say that you can't charm her, make her laugh and let her know what she is missing. Do this convincingly, and you are well on your way.