Getting dumped is something that most guys have had to endure at some point in their lives. In fact, an average person, male or female, is likely to get dumped many times during their life if they are actively dating. While no one likes to be told it is over, most of us make our biggest mistakes in the days following the split. If we could simply accept the fact that we've been dumped and carry on with life, things would be much less traumatic.

You see, the real pain and suffering is not the actual breakup, but the events following the breakup. That is where most guys make critical errors that, in some cases, ruin any chance of reconciliation down the road.

Perhaps you have witnessed this first hand, or maybe you know someone who has been in the same situation. Excessive phoning and texting are what people do when they are completely out of options, and it's a good indication that things are going to deteriorate. This type of behavior reeks of desperation and wears on the patience of your ex girlfriend. In many cases, it ends in words being exchanged, arguments, and in some instances, restraining orders.

But what if you refused to take part? What if you did the exact opposite of what 90% of other guys do? What if you did the exact opposite of what she expects? How would that change things?

This contrarian approach is something that your ex girlfriend is not going to see coming. It is going to rob her of the power she could have over you if you showed desperation and weakness. It is going to make her question everything she thought she knew.

Of course, the biggest benefit to you is that you are going to stand out and she is going to take notice.

So, when you feel like phoning her, texting, or emailing, resist the temptation and do something else. If you have a sudden urge to call her and beg for another chance, resist that urge and think of the reward by not doing so.

If things are really bad and you know that you are not going to be able to resist picking up your phone, then you may have to resort to more drastic measures. In some cases, it is not unheard of for guys to physically remove themselves from the situation so that it is going to be harder to contact their ex-girlfriend. Going on a week vacation and putting a lot of distance between you and your ex is one way of doing this. But don't forger to leave the cell phone at home.

You may also want to get some help from a good friend. Someone who is not going to allow you to contact your ex partner and will be there when you need to talk. Obviously, this is going to have to be someone you are close to and who cares about what happens to you.

However you decide to avoid your ex after the split, the main thing is that you are doing something positive that is going to help you down the road. Most guys don't even get that far.