Most guys would love to have the "gift of the gab" when it comes to approaching girls with the intention of dating. You'd love to be able to deliver all of those funny and effective pick-up lines in a smooth and cool manner.

But the reality is that very few guys manage to do this naturally. Your greatest fear is of messing up those lines, not knowing what to say or being snubbed. Most guys have an innate fear of embarrassing themselves, or worse still, being rejected. Actually, it's not just guys hold these fears; girls aren't fond of these potential outcomes either.

Have you allowed these types of fears to hold you back? Have you allowed your fears to stop you from approaching a girl who you find adorably cute, funny and sexy? Have you held back because you think she's a "nine" and you're only a "five"? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions then you did the one and only thing which guaranteed failure; you didn't even try.

Would you like to get over that fear? How would you like to feel that you can approach any girl at all, no matter whether she's a "one" or a "ten" and feel equally comfortable? If you want to gain the confidence to be great at both flirting and chatting up the girls, you will find a way I which to do so. You're not born with an innate high sense of self-worth and a check list which tells you how a girls mind works! You have to learn these things. And if you want to do so, you can.

Confidence and self-esteem are the keys to success in everything and dating is no exception. There is no denying that the dating scene has changed and so it is important to adapt to new ways. In the past there was more structure to dating, more guidelines which you could learn and then follow. Nowadays it is more about how to be different/how to stand out from the crowd. Hence more emphasis is placed upon building greater self-esteem and self-worth.

These attributes are what allow you to feel comfortable being "different" and this allows you to attract positive attention more easily. The fact is that if you want to project an "uber-cool" image, then you have to start to think of yourself as "uber-cool"; what you feel inside you will unconsciously project to the outside world. Your new-found self-assurance will be seen in the way you stand, walk, talk, laugh, smile, dress and so on.

There are two different ways of projecting a super-cool image. You can just work on your outer image by imitating, mimicking and copying; this is pretty effective. You did, after all, learn most things as a child in this way. You watched how your parents did things and you copied them. You listened to your teachers and copied them. We are good at copying! The only thing to ensure is that you pick the right role model to copy.

The other way to build up that super cool image is to work on your confidence internally. This is the most important bit really. When you feel comfortable you project this feeling instinctively; you don't have to try, its how you are. You can build your self-confidence and self-esteem easily with the help of hypnosis mp3 downloads.

You might ask "why hypnosis?" Because hypnosis allows you to access your inner mind, your subconscious mind, where all of your instinctive and automatic thought patterns and beliefs are stored. If you want to change your internal belief system, use hypnosis. It makes the job a whole lot quicker and easier. You'll find yourself delivering those chat up lines and flirting with those "tens" in no time at all.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis mp3 downloads for confidence and relationship success.

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