There is no doubt that the breakup left you in a fragile state. However, as bad as it may seem at the moment, you do have options and the situation isn't as hopeless as you think it is. Even though you can't see any way to get your ex back at present, that's not to say that you can't start doing things to further your chances in the future. Consider this laying the groundwork.

However, it does require a bit of work. Nothing worthwhile ever comes easy, and this is no exception.

The following five steps will give you a good start toward getting your partner back:

1. One of the most important things to remember is not to say anything that you may regret. During a breakup, tensions can run high and emotions can be through the roof. This applies to both you and your ex. Many people have ruined their chances for good by using a few choice words. Learn to control your temper and don't say things out of spite. It's tempting to want to get back at him/her, but you really need to be the bigger person here.

2. It goes without saying, but the more you stay in contact with your ex after they've dumped you, the worse the situation is going to get. There is nothing you can say at this moment that is going to change the way things are. This is a classic example of less is more - you are going to accomplish much more by avoiding them for a few weeks.

3. Closely tied to the above point, your number one priority at the moment should be to avoid showing desperate behavior. Desperation is going to absolutely kill any remnant of any chance you have of getting him/her back. Whatever you do, you must avoid harassing them with messages, phone calls, or any other means. This includes asking friends to make inquiries. The more you continue to do this, the more power you are giving to your ex.

4. You've got a big void in your life at the moment and you need to fill it. If you don't, you're going to drive yourself crazy replaying the scene over and over in your head. You are going to torture yourself trying to get to the bottom of why you were dumped. This isn't healthy and that's why you need to find other activities. Start by contacting your group of friends and filling your social calendar. As long as you're not sitting at home by yourself, you should be in good shape.

5. After a few weeks, you can stop avoiding your ex and don't be afraid of bumping into them. If you do, play it cool and treat them as you would any other person. Don't be nasty and vengeful, just stay on an even keel between being overly nice and rude.

There you go. Now, does that sound hard? Nope, it really isn't. The hard part comes when you start over-analyzing things. Sometimes we are our own worst enemy.

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