In the bad times of life when you feel emotionally or mentally frustrated, then you might react to things in a very unhealthy way. Some people even start taking excessive alcohol and drugs to calm their heart and soul. But still people are strong enough to come over the situation after crying and thinking over. But for many, it is really difficult to go through these kinds of situations and at the same time maintain the balance of mind. IF somebody get over analytical then it is even worse as he or she would think over the things again and again trying to analyze them resulting in more frustration.

Rationality holds a back seat in these scenarios as one is totally under the hold of deep emotions. Thus in these times one needs to listen to their heart. Here are the 7 steps you can take to get over your ex:

(1) The first thing that you need to do is stop taking things personally. Stop blaming yourself for the break up. And if your ex is blaming you for this situation then you should think that this is because of their own problems and has nothing to do with you. Probably your ex is exactly in the same situation.

(2) There can be two sides of view in not taking your ex personally. If in some particular situation you have reacted in a way to TELL them that how foolish they are and how THEY have not been able to understand you then it was supposed to be that way. You made a judgment about them and that is your right in any relationship. You should just quickly try to gain your true self and how your ex is behaving in such scenarios does not really matter. You have to try to find out qualities inside you and the qualities that you like in other people. You should never try to pretend or act in such situations; just try to be what you really are.

(3) You should know that nothing is going to last forever. If your ex is too dominant in the relationship that he or she is not able to understand your point of view then you should just keep on saying "YES" to whatever your ex says. This will make your ex give up ultimately as your ex would not be able to argue with you on anything. You should remember that it would be difficult for your ex to argue with you any topic if you are not obsessed of being right always.

(4) If you are not able to cope up with the situation then you should stop see your ex. If you are a God fearing person then it can a bit easy for you to come out of the situation by praying for him or her. That it is going to help you a lot. You will feel liberated and calm.

(5) You should always try to be what you really are. Make your ex realize that you are strong enough to fight anything in life and you would not leave your identity and selfness no matter what comes up in life. Life has to move on in any kind of situation. It is just like water which finds its own way.

(6) If you intentions are different and you want to make your ex to take you back in their life then it is not going to result in anything. In these types of relationships, your ex would easily be able to understand your intentions and would try to make use of this situation.

But this is a little tricky. If you have made sure to implement the last five steps then it is a high probability that your ex would be interested in coming back to you. In this case if you decide to get back in the relationship then you need to be very careful and think over this thing many times before going for this.

You should always remember that whatever decision you take in these times should be for your own wellbeing and improvement of YOUR life as a whole. You should also be genuine in your efforts and should not do these things just to manipulate your ex’s feelings.

(7) Forgiveness is a gift that you should learn to give to your ex. It really does not matter that what happened, what your ex said or did. If you have finally decided to get over your ex and come out of the whole trauma then you should forgive your ex for all the deeds. Forgiveness makes you feel calm and take away all your anger for the person. If you really want your mind and soul to stay healthy then you have to forgive your ex.

Some people suggest the theory that hating a person whom you once loved can make you forget that person more easily. But if seen practically, even if you hate that person still you are thinking about that person and there is a sense of aggression which would not let you stays calm and peaceful. Thus forgiveness is the only way to come out of these traumatic situations.

If you have been truly with your ex then it should be easy for you to forgive and get over your ex easily by implementing the above 7 steps mentioned.