Dealing With Your Feelings

Whilst going through a break up your true feelings seem to come to light. Sometimes, those are feelings you never even knew you had. These are some break up quotes that describe some of the feelings you may be having at the moment. These quotes show us that we are not alone and that there are others who feel our pain. Each of us will have our own interpretation of each quote based on our feelings but here is what each quote means to me.

1. "You don't realize how much you care about someone until they don't care about you."

How many of us know that this is true? We always want things we can't have. When we have them we take them for granted and not notice that they are there. But when they are gone we feel like a big part of our life has disappeared. One we kind of liked!

2. "You've never felt pain until you've felt love."

There are varying types of pain in life. The pain you get when you have a cut or bruise right up to the pain you feel when your heart has been shredded to pieces. Whoever you have lost and in what way that pain is the worst type of pain that you can experience. But if the love was not there then that pain would not have existed.

3. "If I hadn't met you, I wouldn't like you. If I hadn't liked you, I wouldn't love you. If I wouldn't love you, I wouldn't miss you. But I did, I do and I will."

Pretty simple one to understand. If you hadn't have met you wouldn't have fallen in love and feel hurt now. But on the positive side if you didn't meet them where would you be now. There's always someone else you can meet and fall in love with around every corner.

4. "I can't talk to you anymore, it's not that I am mad at you, it's just that when I talk to you I realize how much I love you and when I realize how much I love you, I realize I can't have you and that makes me love you even more."

Back to break up quote number one if you can't have something you always want it more. This is really the best advice as staying away from you ex can help you in many ways. First it gives you a chance to cool down and work out your feelings and secondly meeting up with them will only make you feel worse and may lead to harsh words being said or pushing them away even further.

5. "I'm not supposed to love you, I'm not supposed to care, I'm not supposed to live my life wishing you were there. I'm not supposed to wonder where you are or what you're doing, but I can't help it, cause I'm in love with you."

You can't just switch your love off. Depending on the reason that your relationship ended your ex may have been thinking about it for a while and has had time to adjust before even ending the relationship. If you didn't see it coming the hurt is even stronger and your love cannot just end. It will take time but try to introduce more things in your life so you don't have time to think about what they are doing and with whom and you may soon start to wonder why you even cared in the first place!

6. "Trying to forget someone you love is like trying to remember someone you never knew."

But yes, forgetting is going to be hard. There's no button you can press to turn your love off. It may take some time. But as this quote seems to suggest it may seem impossible at the moment. Depending on the choices you make this may always be so but no one wants to live in the past so you must start to rebuild your life however much you may not want to.

7. "Nothing hurts more than realizing they meant everything to you, but you meant nothing to them."

This is another one that we can all relate to. When a relationship finishes you are the one that realizes how much your ex means to you whilst they are realizing how much you don't mean to them. It is not an easy situation and the only positive thing you can do it either move on and forget about them or turn the situation around and make them realize exactly what they are missing out on!

8. "The pain of having a broken heart is not so much as to kill you, yet not so little as to let you live."

Your broken heart will not kill you but it is painful enough for you to believe that will. During these times it is important for you to keep believing that it won't always be like this and however hard it may seem at these times it WILL get better.

9. "Sometimes you think you've gotten over a person, but when you see them smile you suddenly realize you're just pretending you're over them to ease the pain of knowing that they will never be yours."

This is a good reason to distance yourself from your ex until you feel like you are truly over them. Seeing them again so soon, especially if they have moved on, can be especially painful and bring everything flooding back. /so if possible try to keep away until you feel like you have moved on and are in a place where their life won't affect you.

10. "Missing you isn't the hard part, knowing I once had you is what breaks my heart."

You may miss them but knowing that you were with them and never will be again is going to take some coming to terms with.

Broken Heart Symptoms 

Those break up quotes may highlight what you are feeling at the moment. But during a break up you may have other thoughts and symptoms such as:

• Leaving the radio off because every song makes you cry

• Loss of appetite

• Binge eating for comfort

• Calling your ex several times a day

• Text messaging and emailing constantly

• Constantly checking your email and voice mail to see if he/she called

• Not going out because you are afraid to miss a call

• Thinking non-stop about why they REALLY left you

• Feeling massively depressed

• Feeling urges to spy on them

• Endlessly rehearsing what you should have said

• Endlessly rehearsing what you will say if you bump into them.

There is always a time in every break up, whatever the circumstances, that you will yearn for the love you have lost and for a while you may experience some, or all, of these symptoms. But none of these will help you regain that love or to even find closure. These actions are more than likely going to make you feel even worse.

Your best bet is to deal with your pain and emotions by speaking and spending time with a friend or family member, who can take your mind off your past relationship. Talking through your relationship will help you find out what made the relationship end. It can also help you gain closure and decide whether or not you do still really want to be with that person. Sometimes you are more upset that they don't love you than the fact that you are not with them. If this is the case then it really is time to move on.

Saving Your Relationship 

If after reading these break up quotes you just cannot bare moving on from your ex. Maybe that even after following all the advise that has been given here you still cannot bear life without your ex. In that case you can always try to salvage your relationship and get them back.

This also will not be easy. But there are ways to do this and making the mistakes mentioned above are only going to push your ex partner away even further. So you must still follow this advice to be able to get anywhere. A cooling off period or break is for around a month is always a good option. During this time you can get yourself into a better and positive frame of mind.

Do not plead or beg, just agree with the break up - for now - while you get your thoughts and emotions under control.

Write a SECOND CHANCE LETTER to your ex to show that you are fine with the break up. Let them feel that your the one knocking them down!

Think about why your relationship ended in the first place and work out how you maybe able to change these things. Or think about, if you think these reasons are invalid, whether the relationship is worth saving. Try writing a list of positive and negatives to help you weigh up the relationship.

Think about why you want to get back together and then review this after the cooling off period. Sometimes, after a month of doing other things, our thoughts will be totally different.

If one of the reason's that the relationship ended is because your partner had an affair you must decide within yourself whether you will truly be able to forgive and forget and try to establish the cause of the cheating and decide whether you think that they will do it again.

If it was you that had the affair the first thing you need to do is apologize. But this must be done correctly to gain forgiveness. Do not apologize too soon, as mentioned before leave a cooling off period, and when you do apologize always be truthful and sincere.

During the cooling off period regain your confidence so that when you meet up again your the person they fell in love with in the first place. This will help reignite the flame you once had.