Knowing that you want to get your girlfriend back is not enough. By taking initiatives instead of wondering what happened and feeling sorry for yourself you can get her back. Show her what you are made of and have her back in your arms once again with these four suave moves.

First and foremost, try to bridge the gap. Talk about your feelings or the things that concern you both. A lot of relationships are based on the girl doing most of the talking, if this is true in your past relationship with her, you need to change this by talking as well. Keeping the lines of communication open is key. You can do this by sending an e-mail, text message, or calling her. There is so many ways to contact her there is no reason to miss this step. More of an investment that shows your love and commitment would be to give a romantic gift, like roses, with a personal note. . This may seem trite and corny to you and many others, but any girl sees these gestures as very important.

Numbers are important in her thoughts – numbers like phone numbers, or her father’s birthday. Women place a great deal of significance on dates and numbers that have deep meaning to her. By remembering her birthday this year after missing before, you will give her a powerful surprise. Don’t remember the day you two officially became a couple? Move heaven and earth to find it and use this information in talking with her. These points you score are your way back in with her. This can not be stressed enough.

Going too far with communication attempts will scare her away though. Late night phone calls is a sure example of looking creepy rather than the true sincerity you feel. Use the time you spend on making this relationship come back by working on you, not causing her to run away forever from you. . How you got to where she isn’t with you, the reason for the break in the first place, is something in the past and can’t be changed. Don’t ever go there again. . Instead, use the common good between you, the reason you want this relationship to continue, as a place to build the bridge between both of you stronger and stronger. You know what is destructive to your relationship, so don’t ever bring them up. Identify the harmful things, be they physical objects or painful thoughts, and trash them completely. Get rid of it or forget about it.

Above all, stay out of black moods – be and stay positive . Being up and staying there will make this entire process easier and fun. If you believe that everything will be alright, then there is a good chance it could be and in the end, if the relationship is not able to be salvaged, try to identify and learn from your mistakes.

Getting a girlfriend to come back and commit again may be hard, but it is possible. How it happens between you and her will be unique and the result of your unique efforts. The parts that add up to your success are different from anyone else’s, but it is certain you can put it together so you can be with her.