A virtuous breakup or a painful split, the simple truth is ending a relationship with the one you love is difficult to do, and for guys there’s no exception. If the thought of moving on to find a new love does not appeal to you, or if you just can’t imagine living your life without her, you obviously still have those emotional ties to your ex. So if you just can’t let her go and think she is still worth the effort, seize the moment and go for it. Here are a few tips to help you win back your girlfriend.

Initially, analyze your predicament. Make the decision to be honest and sincere while examining yourself and the relationship. Next, attempt to determine why it ended and discover from it. There are a lot of reasons why a relationship falls apart and issuing blame is never productive. Ask yourself various questions from outside the box to achieve an atypical point of view. Contemplating each aspect of the split is significant because it can aid in ascertaining if the relationship is redeemable. If the relationship is not repairable, it’s time to move on. But, if there is a glimmer of hope of reconciling, then grab hold and run with it.

Now view yourself. What can you do to make yourself better? List all your attributes, positive ones as well as negative ones. Endeavor to change any of your bad habits that may be damaging to a successful outcome to your reconciliation. It is definitely difficult to change engrained bad habits but if you are really determined to win her back, then it’s a necessary sacrifice. Focus on the positive. Remember all of the little nonconformist things she loved about you, the things that helped her fall in love with you to begin with. Bring back the man that swept her off her feet. Make it natural, not like a movie script. A few days at the gym will give you an improved physique which will come in handy too. Include a new hair style and a new outfit when you meet her. You just might spark her interest with your new sense of style.

Once you have completed your mental and physical tune-up, try to get In touch with her. See if she will meet with you for a lunch date or maybe a casual drink at your old favorite haunt. If that’s to much for her, see if she will join you for a cup of coffee, or maybe catch a movie together. Try to plan an activity that you both will enjoy. Think of this as the beginning of your "win you girlfriend back" challenge. Try not to pour on the romance at this point as that could scare her away, but follow her lead. And if she begins to flirt and act coy, then maybe she’s wanting to be a little romantic, so by all mean accommodate her. But under no circumstances are you to rush the situation. You must be smart about this. Rushing into that "let’s get back together" conversation is a sure fire way to torpedo any chance you might have to reconcile. Just be her friend for now. If she shows any sign of returning your feelings and intentions, then by all means seize the opportunity and go with it.

If you’re successful with doing everything I’ve talked about so far, then this last part is easy. It’s a no brainer. Just let nature take its course. After all, it was the natural power of attraction that connected you both in the first place. So yes, the methods to win back a girlfriend are mixed, but in the end, it’s the man you are inside that helped your girlfriend fall in love with you that is the most important. Be yourself, and hopefully she’ll be back in your arms in no time at all.