Your worst fear came true and, it happened. Mistakes were made. The small cracks that develop over time in any relationship began to be magnified while misunderstandings and differences of opinions ran flowed like water. Your once-seemingly perfect relationship was heading for a break-up. So what now? You really want to get things back to the way they once were with his arms firmly wrapped around you. Here are some helpful tips to send you along your way.

Begin with yourself. If you hope to resolve the issues plaguing your relationship then you need to pinpoint what the problem was. Take a long hard, yet honest look back at your relationship. Try to determine where everything seemed to fall apart and what your part in this whole mess was. It might not have been your fault, but maybe had more to do with his issues. If that’s the case, then there may be little you can do to save your relationship. But, if on the other hand, you find some of the mistakes made were yours, then learn from them. There is a good chance things could work out.

I know at this point, you’re dying to show him how much you love him and want to care for him, but don’t! Resist the temptation to do something and wait. The best thing you could do for him right now is to be the best "you" you can possibly be. Instead, treat yourself to a day of beauty. Pamper yourself for a change. The last thing your guy wants to see is you all puffy and unattractive from all of those sleepless nights and crying jags. So do something special for yourself. Show him the beauty that he once fell in love with. Now, I’m not saying go crazy and do something drastic like plastic surgery. But be natural. A day at the spa will do wonders for your appearance not to mention your self esteem. And when you see each other again, he might just want to talk to you right then and there.

A mans friends can be extremely influential when it comes to making a decision. So, if you can, why not try to win over some of his friends, but be causal. You don’t want them to feel you’re sucking up to them just so he will come back to you. Just show them your good side. And if possible, explain your side of the story without being too needy, or defensive. Not for goodness sake, leave the dramatics at home. They probably have enough drama of their own with their girlfriends. You don’t want to add to it. That would be counter productive. Let them make up their own minds about the situation. You never want to come across as too needy or pushy. Their commentary about you will make a big impact on your boyfriend’s decision.

Find the woman he fell in love with and bring her back. If you were the type of girl that enjoyed eating a hot dog at a baseball game and now you hate it when he’s watching sports, then bring that girl back he remembers. I’m sure he’s thinking that you changed, but in your eyes you’re still the same. Most men hate change, so be consistent. We all know change is inevitable in life, but always strive to change only for the better.

View life with optimism. Any hint of pessimism, depression or imbalance on your part will only quicken the death of your attempts to reconcile. Nobody wants to be around a gloomy gus. It only undermines your efforts to win your boyfriend back, so avoid them at all costs. A positive outlook is contagious and most men find it very attractive. Hold on to it and your light will definitely shine through.

And please, do yourself a favor, before you begin your quest to win his heart back, be sure to leave a little dignity for yourself. There’s no harm in showing your love and affection for the man you desire, but if you start to look like a fool or a stalker while attempting to win back his love, then that’s a different story. Above all, respect yourself and he will respect you too.

Last, but certainly not least, ask yourself this very important question, "Do I really want him back?" The answer will help in your decision. If you find that your efforts are going unnoticed, then perhaps you aren’t doing enough. Review your actions and feelings. Any deed done reflects what you feel deep down inside. So dig deep and be honest. Your answer will determine your outcome. If you don’t truly want to win him back, then what’s the point. Why even try?

Love has never been easy. If it was, we’d all be in love. But by following the tips I’ve outlined above, you just may have a chance to save yours. Important rule: Don’t let you feeling dictate your actions. And be the best you, you can possibly be. Strive to be open and honest and above all a good listener. And hopefully before long you’ll be back in your man’s arms safe and secure in his love for you.