To some, it may seem easier to scale a mountain then to try winning your ex-boyfriend back. And if patience is not your long suit, then you have a tough road ahead. You see, this whole process takes lots of patience and time, loads of courage and plenty of understanding to stay the course through this immensely stressful endeavor to rescue a relationship. The bar is raised even higher if your ex has already met another girl. This means she is monopolizing his time and attention; more than likely causing his heart to beat a bit faster. If your head is telling you to give up, but your heart is telling you to get him back despite all of the challenges, relax it can still happen. It’s just going to take time and effort on your part. Simply follow my tips and you’ll be on your way to having your man back in your arms.

First, make an assessment. The only thing that’s certain is that there was a reason your relationship broke up. And, the smartest thing you can do is analyze your relationship and determine what happened. Why did you breakup? What went wrong and what was your part in that? Be honest and admit the part you played. Now you can learn from these mistakes and hopefully grow as a person. The last thing you want is to continue making the same mistakes relationship after relationship.

Stop focusing on him and turn that focus around to you. It’s time you took stock of yourself and your appearance. Now more than ever, you need to look and feel glamorous! Always make an effort to look your best. It’s a well know fact that men are visual creatures and like it or not, women have to go that extra mile in situations like this. Let him see how attractive and appealing you are. Women who take my advice and pamper themselves are a step higher than those who think this is rubbish. Unfortunately, this is the reality we live in, and you can either learn to accept it or run the risk of being alone for the rest of your life. I’m not saying that all men are shallow, because for most men, inner beauty is just as important as outward beauty. That’s why I say ,,, Pamper Yourself! You want him to crave having you back on his arm as before. A day of beauty will have your inner self as radiant as your outer self. And before long, he will be claiming you as his.

No more … the glass is half empty! Throw pessimism out the window and embrace the power of optimism! Expressing a positive attitude is very important. I don’t know about you, but I know I don’t want to be around a hateful, bitter, jaded person after their breakup? Hearing them go on and on, complaining abut their ex gets old real fast. And don’t get me started about those who wallow in self pitty. Typically after a breakup a person is granted a reasonable amount of time to heal their wounds, but if for some reason you can’t snap out of your funk then seek medical help. There are medications on the market today that will do wonders. Believing in yourself is another of of those key factors in getting your ex back. So if you don’t believe you can get your ex back then there is no chance you will. Like the lottery, you’ve got to be in it to win it. So if you don’t even try you’ll never be successful. You have to actually make the effort. Think of the little engine who could and be positively enthusiastic and you too will be able to move mountains.

Never give up your self-esteem. I know your heart is broken into a million little pieces and you really want to get your ex back in your life, but the last thing any person wants is to be stalked by their ex, physically or by text message. So don’t call or text him repeatedly, it won’t help. It’s a proven fact that this will seal your separation. Nobody wants to be involved with someone like that. Men have always loved a challenge, so don’t be too obvious about it. Pushy and needy are a turnoff. Stop listening to your friends and be your own person. It’s about time you used your brain to came up with a more cleaver way to let him know your intent. It will not only get his attention, but he will be intrigued by your ingenuity.

Be careful with the amount of alcohol you consume. It will only lead to trouble when you get drunk and start drunk dialing your ex. You never know what might come out of your mouth and once you say it, there are no take-backs. Alcohol will ease the hurt, but is the last thing you need when your mind is clouded with hatred, depression, or even loneliness. Drinking alcohol will only derail any attempt to reconcile.

Whatever you decide to do to get your ex-boyfriend back do it with gusto and I’m sure you can make it happen. Remember, it’s not going to develop overnight. It’s going to take some time and effort. But if it’s something worth fighting for … then I say go for it!