Do you want to move past the breakup and on to a happier and healthier life? It can be hard to do when you are sitting around thinking about what you once had with your ex, and where you relationship could have gone. Use these 6 tactics to help you get on with your life and start living again.

1. Remember the Bad Times as Well as the Good Times

We have a tendency to only remember the good things about a relationship after a breakup. They far outweigh the bad things in our minds at this time, but the truth is there were some bad things that made the relationship fail. Remember why the relationship failed and come to terms with why it would never work with those issues in it.

2. Avoid Contact

Do not go to the places that you think your ex will be. This will only hurt you more when you see them again. Just stay away from the regular spots that you used to hang out at for a while and start making some new places to frequent.

3. Distract Your Mind

Every time anger or despair comes into your mind do something to distract the thoughts. Take a nap, focus on a task, talk to a friend, talk to a stranger, or anything else that keeps your mind occupied. You will find yourself feeling better when you stop focusing on those thoughts and consistently replacing them with other thoughts.

4. Stay in the Present

Living in the moment is good for your health and happiness, and it will help you not think about that time the two of you had fun together. Instead you will focus on what is presently happening to you and feel more grounded to your life. You can do this by using all of your senses to your advantage. For example, if you are sitting in park, instead of daydreaming about the past, listen to the birds chirp, feel the wind on your skin, look at the kids playing, or feel the grass beneath your feet.

5. Remember all The Bad Moments That Have Passed Before

One of my favorite sayings is "This will pass too." It's a great thing to say to yourself because it reminds you that you have faced moments in your life that you thought you would never get over, but you did. Time has a way of healing your anger and bringing new happiness to you. So remember that as bad as you feel right now you will one day look back on this as a memory and not a devastating event.

6. Understand What You Learned From Your Ex

Your relationship taught you something about your life. It may have taught you that you will not put up with cheating or abuse. It may have taught you that you are stronger than you thought you were. There was something negative in your relationship that taught you something. The only way we can learn is through mistakes and falling down in life. You have walked away from the relationship with more knowledge about yourself then you had before! So be grateful that the relationship happened, but be willing to accept you have learned all you can from them.