Very little can uproot the direction in which your life is headed more than having the guy you love wholeheartedly tell you that the two of you are through. Your heart is feeling as though it's in thousands of pieces and your ability to concentrate in every aspect of your life seems completely out of focus. And your pride, well, let's just say you've definitely had days where you've held your head much higher. What demands the attention of every waking second of your time, of course, is wrapping your head around just how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back.

First of all, you are certainly not by yourself in your thoughts. Nearly every woman whom has been dumped thinks about getting back her ex regardless how strong and nonchalant she portrays herself just after the break up occurs. With this in mind, there are a few important concepts that you should familiarize yourself with before you act on any of your feelings.

It's All About Attraction

So, "what's the key to knowing how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back," you ask yourself? I can sum it up for you with one word. Attraction. What you must realize is that attraction is the secret. When you and your man first started dating, when your relationship first started, what first brought the two of you together was attraction. Your boyfriend was attracted to you physically, mentally, and emotionally. You've got to rekindle that attraction that he had for you.

"How do I do that," you might ask? Well, let's get a few things out in the open. Your first instincts are usually to tell him how much you love him, how he is the only guy for you, thinking that if you are honest about your feelings, then certainly he will come flying back to your side. You do this because it seems logical to your emotional side at the moment. But, will it work? Well, you have probably already tried telling him how you feel, and since you're reading up on the subject now, then you already know the answer. The answer, of course, is a big, fat "no."

An Agreeable Woman Is An Attractive Woman

Instead of following your emotions, try following your head. If you had stopped to think about it from a logical standpoint when the break up happened, your head would have likely informed you that pleading for him to take you back just would not work. Why? Well, what your man wanted at the time of the break up was to end the relationship. With that in mind, if you were telling him that you still cared deeply for him and you desperately wanted him to give the relationship another chance, then you were disagreeing with him. What you were essentially doing was convincing him that you really didn't care what he wanted. You were convincing him that all you were interested in was what you want; for him to give the relationship another chance.

There's simply no way you are going to be successful in attracting him back by disagreeing with his opinions and decisions. So, the better approach is to assure him that you agree with his decision. Communicate with him in a calm and sincere way that you believe that he is correct, that the two of you are just too different. To put it another way, whatever reason he has given you for ending the relationship, agree with his decision. This is the foremost important step in rekindling his attraction for you. Once again, an agreeable girlfriend, even an ex, is very attractive to a man indeed. You absolutely must agree.

Men Are Suckers For The Beauty

As you keep concentrating on how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back, keep the concept of attraction firmly within your mind's eye. While there are plenty of psychological "tricks" behind the attraction between people, there are some other areas you can work on to peak your ex boyfriend's attraction for you just the same. One of these other areas, of course, includes the way you present yourself. You'll want to improve your physical appearance wherever you can.

Start by working with whatever is easiest for you. Get a new hair cut, for example, or try out some new clothes. There's no need to get carried away and try to change yourself into a completely different woman, but simple, fashionable changes in your wardrobe or hair can make a huge impact. Though it can be more difficult and takes more time, you might also start exercising more often to lose any extra pounds or just to improve your overall build which improves your own self-esteem.

Consider Dating Other Men

Another highly effective way to attract your ex boyfriend is to start dating other men. The reasone is, if he realizes that other men are attracted to you, then your ex boyfriend will also see you in very much the same way. Likewise, dating other guys tends to create within your ex boyfriend the feeling that you are no longer "his". The power of dating new men should not be overlooked.

Even though you may not be ready for a new relationship, and you probably aren't if you still have feelings for your ex, then dating other men will still improve your self-esteem which increases your self-confidence. A confident woman is very attractive to a man.

Figuring out how to get your ex boyfriend to want you back doesn't have to be difficult once you realize that it all comes down to attraction. You can attract your ex boyfriend back easier than you think. Just keep in mind that you managed to do it once. Most likely, if you put a little effort into it, you can certainly attract him again.