If you have recently experienced a break-up – or even if it has been a little while – you may regret that the relationship ended and might be feeling like you would do just about anything to be back together with your ex. If you truly want your ex back, and the relationship was healthy for both of you, then working to get her back is a noble cause, but you cannot embark on that quest without understanding the signs your ex wants you back.

Recognizing the signs an ex wants you back can be difficult, particularly if you don’t know what to look for or how to interpret what you see. For example, while signs ex wants you back might include her checking in with you periodically to see how you are doing, this could also be her simply trying to string you along and getting a perverse satisfaction from knowing that you are still stuck on her. This is why it is imperative that you understand the real signs your ex wants you back before you put too much effort into trying to get her back.

Before we get into what signs an ex want you back to look for, there are a couple of things you need to consider, as well as a couple of things that you need to avoid doing.

First of all, before even beginning to look for signs ex wants you back, you need to make sure that getting back together is really what you want and is really the best thing for both of you. It is perfectly normal to miss your ex – and for her to miss you – after all, you spent time together, made memories and were important in each other’s lives. So the first thing you have to do is figure out if you are just going through the normal grieving process and missing having your ex around, or if you truly want her back in your life long term.

Before you concern yourself with the signs your ex wants you back, you also need to make sure that you are missing her and not just the idea of her. Simply missing being in a relationship and having someone to share your life with is not reason enough to try to get your ex back. It’s also not a good idea to try to get her back if it is some idealized version of her that you miss, rather than the real, imperfect, unique woman that she is. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior, so don’t go into this thinking that she will be a changed woman and will now fit the ideal picture of her you have in your head.

Once you have determined that you really do want your ex back and are ready to study the signs an ex wants you back, there is one more thing to cover before we get down to business. We will discuss this huge no-no and start laying out what to look for when watching for signs ex wants you back in Signs Your Ex Wants You Back Part 2